"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alright well this girl just moved to my school and shes really awesome so far I just went up and introduced myself and she wants me to show her around since I can drive and have friends so anyway she wants me to come over for dinner somtime and maybe go to a movie or rock n bowl.... one thing though where she moved from she has a BF but she said he dosent try and talk to her anymore and its too far away and she wants a new bf... Well would it be wise to move in fast or just kind of be a friend... any tips would be appreciated.
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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just be friends for now, and when she and her bf break up, i'd make the move. not necessarily to be a bf, but to let her know you'll *always* be there for her. but for now, friends would be the best option. Youve already scored a lot of points when you introduced yourself and said you'd show her around and stuff.....good luck!
 
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Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan
just be friends for now, and when she and her bf break up, i'd make the move. not necessarily to be a bf, but to let her know you'll *always* be there for her. but for now, friends would be the best option. Youve already scored a lot of points when you introduced yourself and said you'd show her around and stuff.....good luck!
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Disagree - if you like her as more than a friend you shouldn't pretend to just want to be her friend. Of course getting to know her to determine common interests is good, but I'd think a weird if you randomly said "I'll always be there for you" after whatever amount of time - not to mention deceptive, if your interest wasn't made known.
 
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Don't be friends, just move on her, or if you are v. honourable then get her to split up with her b.f. She sounds like a monkey, not willing to let go of one tree until another is lined up.
 
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well since i'm a girl, i think that i'd know how we work first

shes new at your school. I'm sure plenty of guys will be asking her out. Better to be honest, tell her you dig her, but say "lets just be friends cuz i wanna get to know you, and i know you have a bf"

she'll appreciate that. Last thing she needs to be worrying about now is guys crawling all over her.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Originally posted by LuvMyArmyMan and replied to by MetalFortress



---well since i'm a girl, i think that i'd know how we work first---

umm, no comment

---shes new at your school. I'm sure plenty of guys will be asking her out. Better to be honest, tell her you dig her, but say "lets just be friends cuz i wanna get to know you, and i know you have a bf"---

Unless he can pull it off correctly, this looks like a ONE WAY TICKET to sissyland. If he can deal with being "second in line", sure, but I wouldn't want to be some chick's second in line. I'm gonna live my own life.

---she'll appreciate that. Last thing she needs to be worrying about now is guys crawling all over her.---

which guys wanting to be her friend with other interests in mind is not?
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