"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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blame me for no cell plans...

I saw a HB6 so i went and said.. "um".. no mess-up though, and she just looked confused because i came out of nowhere.. and i gave a same "posture" and expression (so i thought i said um again which i didn't) and she said "um.. what? (because i was just staring at her down without saying anything but um) are you talking about me?"..and then i said.. "yea.." I was looking at her below her head and she looked at the same area as well and she asked "what's wrong with me?".. and i told her "i don't know.. maybe it's that" and i pointed at her shoes.. she said "what's so bad about them?" and i told her.. "it doesn't fit you".. and she didn't say anything so i told her to turn around and she did but she did it slowly with confusion and i told her to stand up straight and walk more like a girl and i grabbed her shoulders. she said "haha thanks" and i said "you got a celly?" and she said "yeah" and remembering i have no cell plans i told her "too bad i can't get your number though, i lost mine" and we left.
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I was with u until the part that u said u didn't get her number b/c u didn't have a cell. Couldn't u just do it the old fashion way w/ a paper and a pen?
 

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i didn't bring it and bringing one would be weird imo
 

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so you're pick up line -if u will
was "um"

then when she looks you say "um" again?

thats so simple, and so stupid - there is almost a bit of genius about it though, because its so different.

i think it could definently be pulled off.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think it's good that you're approaching, but I'm going to give you some tough love here. You did many things wrong in this approach that you want to learn from.

1. Don't say um, it makes you look indecisive.
2. Don't open with an excuse, like you thought her shoes don't fit.
3. Unless you have a reason not to, talk to her for a bit before you close.
4. Stop making lame excuses as to why you can't close her. You could always call her from your home phone.
5. Make more than one approach a day.
6. WHEN YOU ARE LEARNING ATTEMPT TO CLOSE EVERY SET YOU OPEN.

Once again, it's good that you approach. Learn from your mistakes, correct them, and improve your game.

-Dan
 

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Originally posted by Spirit Fingers
I think it's good that you're approaching, but I'm going to give you some tough love here. You did many things wrong in this approach that you want to learn from.

1. Don't say um, it makes you look indecisive.
2. Don't open with an excuse, like you thought her shoes don't fit.
3. Unless you have a reason not to, talk to her for a bit before you close.
4. Stop making lame excuses as to why you can't close her. You could always call her from your home phone.
5. Make more than one approach a day.
6. WHEN YOU ARE LEARNING ATTEMPT TO CLOSE EVERY SET YOU OPEN.

Once again, it's good that you approach. Learn from your mistakes, correct them, and improve your game.

-Dan
Well.. It was more of a "uh" sound but it's still the same, right? I can't close her and it's better not to give her my home phone, if you wanna know, pm me.


quest: read my post again, i didn't say um again.
 

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Originally posted by tactic
Well.. It was more of a "uh" sound but it's still the same, right? I can't close her and it's better not to give her my home phone, if you wanna know, pm me.


quest: read my post again, i didn't say um again.
Originally posted by tactic

I saw a HB6 so i went and said.. "um"..
thats a direct quote from your original post. forgeive me for being misconstrued.
 

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Yo Jason


Thanks for the reply, haha.. call myself tactic that would be cool.
 

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Originally posted by tactic
Well.. It was more of a "uh" sound but it's still the same, right? I can't close her and it's better not to give her my home phone, if you wanna know, pm me.


quest: read my post again, i didn't say um again.

I saw a HB6 so i went and said.. "um".. no mess-up though, and she just looked confused because i came out of nowhere.. and i said "um" once again
I guess people have trouble reading. I was certain you said "um" again.

It doesn't matter though, at least you approached. Keep doing it, I'm sure you'll get better.

Listen to Spirit Fingers advice, it's solid. Why couldn't you close her? Makes no sense to me, there have been times where I had them write something on a pen and paper. I'm sure you can just walk into any store with her and ask if they'll let you use a pen. You can write on anything. If you can't walk into a store ask somebody. Also, stop using C&F as a way to hide your insecurities. You can use it after you fix all of your inner beliefs.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I made an error when i wrote that. I said um at first and then she looked at me and i just stared at her down, but i didn't say um, but i thought i did. I didn't really put time to write carefully. Quest, you were right when you pointed that out but that's not what happened.


Originally posted by Xysen
I guess people have trouble reading. I was certain you said "um" again.

It doesn't matter though, at least you approached. Keep doing it, I'm sure you'll get better.

Listen to Spirit Fingers advice, it's solid. Why couldn't you close her? Makes no sense to me, there have been times where I had them write something on a pen and paper. I'm sure you can just walk into any store with her and ask if they'll let you use a pen. You can write on anything. If you can't walk into a store ask somebody. Also, stop using C&F as a way to hide your insecurities. You can use it after you fix all of your inner beliefs.
 
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