"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Number closing a girl who's cell phone isn't working

VastanVer2.0

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So tonight I had a couple of short interactions with a girl. She approached me while the club was pretty slow. I ended up leaving early but before I took off I saw her chilling with some dude obviously accepting free booze. I wave her over, she comes compliantly. I say I need to take off, but I want her number. She says she doesn't have a cell right now. I'm like "oh", she immediately pipes up saying she'll give me her number and she's getting a new cell in a week. She double checks I enter the number in right and makes sure I get her name right (she's like "it's ....., spelled with a y").

Is there any need to try and contact this chick or is it a lost cause?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No Girls 4 U

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She gave you the number. She told you when she'd have a phone. So, wait a week, then call her.

Also: if u ever do get that line again, just ask if the girl has Facebook, Twitter, e-mail, skype... there are so many ways to get in touch with people these days it's ridiculous. Plus, u know if she tells you she doesn't have ANY way of getting in contact with you in ANY way, she's just not interested.
 

VastanVer2.0

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Yeah, I was taking her initial "I don't have a cell phone" as a ****ed up excuse rejection. But she quickly corrected saying that her cell was stolen. I'm not sure if it's still a rejection, I've become skeptical to what girls say these days (I've been fed so much bs from girls it's not funny).
 

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I would assume she's telling the truth unless you find out otherwise when you call. If it turns out that she's not, well at least you haven't lost your faith in all of humanity by blowing her off before even trying.

You shouldn't let it affect you too much. There are other women out there and if you call and the number doesn't work then you're much better off without her in your life.
 

VastanVer2.0

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I'll still try her. The worst that could happen is she'll say no/wont answer/if turns out to be a fake. I'll try and get her out either back to a club and pull to her place from there (found out she lived minutes from the club area) or I'll get her out on a day2 in the middle of the city and try to isolate at her place.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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runner83

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Yes, sounds good.

Don't get into the habit of over analysing.

In a week when you make contact, either:

- Number is a fake, so you ditch it and see other chicks

- Number is real, you make contact, and regardless of how it goes you see other chicks

Simple really!
 

VastanVer2.0

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runner83 said:
Yes, sounds good.

Don't get into the habit of over analysing.

In a week when you make contact, either:

- Number is a fake, so you ditch it and see other chicks

- Number is real, you make contact, and regardless of how it goes you see other chicks

Simple really!
Well number isn't a fake (I tried it and got her voice mail immediately). I'll try her in a week and see what's what.
 
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