All this self improvement, all this hard work, all this determination, what do you think it's all for? People are beggining to improve for the sake of improvement. Instead of doing what they feel like doing, they do what others what them to (in a round-a-bout kind of way).
"Now What?"
This is a question everyone should ask themselves.
When you have that impressive body, when you have those girls crawling around you, when you have that excellent charisma, when you become that guy everyone wants to be.. ask yourself "Now what?"
If a guy did all that and all he ever really wanted to do was play golf, what would be the point.
Now this may appear to go against everything ive ever preached, but let me further explain myself.
Becoming socially magnificent is only a part of the pie which is your life, a proportionally smaller piece. The person who lived the most fulfulling life isnt the one with the most girls, the most money and the most attractive physique.
It's the man who did what he enjoyed, he cared about his family, he nurtured the community, and naturally, success came to him. The most fulfilled people dont **** 10 girls a week, chances are they only **** 1 girl their entire life.
Why is this? Well think about it, sex is the same thing, and after it sex is just sex. Dont kid yourself, your not trying to pick up girls because you enjoy the sex that much, you want the number, you want "another one to the tally" and you want to be seen as a pimp.
I've been there, I've done that, it never made me happy. I made many girls cry, i've made some girls almost commit suicide, why? Because i was angry, i was angry at the life i led before, i had to show the world that i was better then it, that i could get girls, that i could be "cool". But now... I'm empty.
Making girls cry? Making them fall in love and then going out with some other girl? What sort of sick form of fulfillement would someone get out of that.
I went off on a bit of a tangent there, let me get back on track.
The really happy guy didn't keep his eye out for girls he likes, he may of talked to them because he is genuinely friendly and cares about the community but when it comes down to it, he will only persue the one he can see himself going after.
To me, "Don Juan" is about your attitude to the world, you genuienly care about people, you love their pros and their cons.
Life is so easy, DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO.
This site is destructive in the way it fuels people for social acceptance.
You want to be socially accepted, fine go ahead.
Let me give you some examples, this is from the last month or so.
I havent cheated on my gf recently, she genuinely loves me and ive treated her like ****. I've ****ed 4 other girls while we have been together and she is aware of all of them. Why was i doing it? Because people thought i was cool. But now, no more, i don't want to hurt her that bad just for acceptance.
One of my oldest friends, the most insociable person you could meet. He often gets picked on, the last 6 months i have been part of this. Teasing the one person who was there for me when i was in his position. I owed him big time and thats how i repayed him? What did i do? Well the next time someone said **** about him at a party, they went home with a few less teeth and a broken jaw. Did this justify what i did? No way. But he hasn't been teased since. I owed him that much.
There are just 2 examples.
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Chances are, you don't want to admit it. Not even to yourself. But you do things like this for acceptance, dont deny it. It's true.
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Here's what you do.
Look deep within yourself, ponder for a long time about what exactly it is you want out of life.
Your passions, what are your REAL passions, not the passions its cool to have. What do you REALLY enjoy doing. Think long and hard about it, start exploring, trying new things. TRY NEW THINGS.
Your hobbies, have plenty, play computer games, watch TV, do the things that you enjoy.
Your career. What do you genuinely want to do when your older. Don't be in the "cool" jobs.
Your body. Improve your body of course, but do it for yourself.
Now start doing these things, for the right reasons and it will be alot easier.
Remember who your real friends are, there hard to find. I promise you that.
When you do what you want you become happy, you naturally become financially independant, you naturally meet new people, you naturally live life.
It's like the pack analogy. If you do what is "cool" you become part of the pack. If you do you what you want you first become exiled from the majority of the pack and eventually end up being the leader of a bigger, better pack.
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This is the most unformatted post ive ever made, but probably the most important, let me wrap it all up with the way to live life
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Love, care for, and understand your family, your community, and your friends. Remember who your REAL friends, are and realise which people are just using you. Have goals that reflect who YOU want to be (not who it would be "cool" to be) and work towards them. Do what you want to do and not what it is cool to do. Realise that anger, temptation, hard work, love and fun are all a part of life, however, confusion doesnt have to be.
Enjoy it, because what else are you going to do with it?
I wish you all the best in life and urge you to stick with it. I hope my words carry with you and help you with life just like your presence has helped me do just that.
"Now What?"
This is a question everyone should ask themselves.
When you have that impressive body, when you have those girls crawling around you, when you have that excellent charisma, when you become that guy everyone wants to be.. ask yourself "Now what?"
If a guy did all that and all he ever really wanted to do was play golf, what would be the point.
Now this may appear to go against everything ive ever preached, but let me further explain myself.
Becoming socially magnificent is only a part of the pie which is your life, a proportionally smaller piece. The person who lived the most fulfulling life isnt the one with the most girls, the most money and the most attractive physique.
It's the man who did what he enjoyed, he cared about his family, he nurtured the community, and naturally, success came to him. The most fulfilled people dont **** 10 girls a week, chances are they only **** 1 girl their entire life.
Why is this? Well think about it, sex is the same thing, and after it sex is just sex. Dont kid yourself, your not trying to pick up girls because you enjoy the sex that much, you want the number, you want "another one to the tally" and you want to be seen as a pimp.
I've been there, I've done that, it never made me happy. I made many girls cry, i've made some girls almost commit suicide, why? Because i was angry, i was angry at the life i led before, i had to show the world that i was better then it, that i could get girls, that i could be "cool". But now... I'm empty.
Making girls cry? Making them fall in love and then going out with some other girl? What sort of sick form of fulfillement would someone get out of that.
I went off on a bit of a tangent there, let me get back on track.
The really happy guy didn't keep his eye out for girls he likes, he may of talked to them because he is genuinely friendly and cares about the community but when it comes down to it, he will only persue the one he can see himself going after.
To me, "Don Juan" is about your attitude to the world, you genuienly care about people, you love their pros and their cons.
Life is so easy, DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO.
This site is destructive in the way it fuels people for social acceptance.
You want to be socially accepted, fine go ahead.
Let me give you some examples, this is from the last month or so.
I havent cheated on my gf recently, she genuinely loves me and ive treated her like ****. I've ****ed 4 other girls while we have been together and she is aware of all of them. Why was i doing it? Because people thought i was cool. But now, no more, i don't want to hurt her that bad just for acceptance.
One of my oldest friends, the most insociable person you could meet. He often gets picked on, the last 6 months i have been part of this. Teasing the one person who was there for me when i was in his position. I owed him big time and thats how i repayed him? What did i do? Well the next time someone said **** about him at a party, they went home with a few less teeth and a broken jaw. Did this justify what i did? No way. But he hasn't been teased since. I owed him that much.
There are just 2 examples.
------
Chances are, you don't want to admit it. Not even to yourself. But you do things like this for acceptance, dont deny it. It's true.
-----
Here's what you do.
Look deep within yourself, ponder for a long time about what exactly it is you want out of life.
Your passions, what are your REAL passions, not the passions its cool to have. What do you REALLY enjoy doing. Think long and hard about it, start exploring, trying new things. TRY NEW THINGS.
Your hobbies, have plenty, play computer games, watch TV, do the things that you enjoy.
Your career. What do you genuinely want to do when your older. Don't be in the "cool" jobs.
Your body. Improve your body of course, but do it for yourself.
Now start doing these things, for the right reasons and it will be alot easier.
Remember who your real friends are, there hard to find. I promise you that.
When you do what you want you become happy, you naturally become financially independant, you naturally meet new people, you naturally live life.
It's like the pack analogy. If you do what is "cool" you become part of the pack. If you do you what you want you first become exiled from the majority of the pack and eventually end up being the leader of a bigger, better pack.
---
This is the most unformatted post ive ever made, but probably the most important, let me wrap it all up with the way to live life
---
Love, care for, and understand your family, your community, and your friends. Remember who your REAL friends, are and realise which people are just using you. Have goals that reflect who YOU want to be (not who it would be "cool" to be) and work towards them. Do what you want to do and not what it is cool to do. Realise that anger, temptation, hard work, love and fun are all a part of life, however, confusion doesnt have to be.
Enjoy it, because what else are you going to do with it?
I wish you all the best in life and urge you to stick with it. I hope my words carry with you and help you with life just like your presence has helped me do just that.
