Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Nouning: Expansion Pack

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Nouning: Expansion Pack

You may be familiar with the concept that is Nouning. Here's the add-on...

Summary of Nouning

So you're out and you meet a HB. Your conversational skills aren't brilliant... what do you do? Try Nouning.

Nouning is, basically, taking the nouns from a reply you get from a HB.

Noun: A person, place or thing

You: So what do you do? (Boring question I know but a good example nonetheless)
HB: Oh, I'm in Trinity College in Dublin.

Nouns in the above reply: TRINITY COLLEGE and DUBLIN.

We'll pick DUBLIN to work with...

You: So whats the nightlife like in Dublin?
HB: Oh, it's great especially Renards Nightclub!

Noun in the above = Renards Nightclub

You: Renards eh? What's that like then?

And so on... You get the idea.


EXPANSION PACK

To add a bit of variety to your conversation use the 'question words':

- HOW
- WHY
- WHAT
- WHEN
- WHERE
- WHICH


Once you remember these you can pick which one to use in the conversation - there's no end to using these words. Example:


Take the noun DUBLIN again.

Now, use the 'question words' to form a question:

- HOW is Dublin looking these days?

- WHY did you choose to go to Dublin?

- WHATs happening in Dublin these days?

- WHEN do you get your summer holidays from college (in Dublin)?

- WHERE abouts do you socialise in Dublin?

- WHICH do you prefer, (her hometown name here) or Dublin?



Let's use the other noun, Renard's Nightclub, as another example:

- HOW is Renard's these days? (As in, is it busy)

- WHY did you choose to go to Renard's?

- WHATs the best day to go out in Renard's?

- WHEN do you go to Renard's?

- WHERE abouts is Renard's exactly?

- WHICH do you prefer, (other club name here) or Renard's?



Once you get used to using the above method, there's no way you can run out of things to talk about/say to the HB/person.

NOTE: This tip is inteded to get you INTO the conversation and kickstart the meeting - using this tip ALL the time will make you look robotic - so use sparingly.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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