not looking at porn, or even non-nude pics

[realsmoothie]

I was thinking the other day about how the media and especially porn affects our perspectives on women.

I surmised that looking at pictures or videos of extremely attractive women, usually those with plastic surgery, hair extensions, and who knows what else, is affecting how I see women in real life. It makes sense to think that you compare reality with the image, and reality usually comes out short.

So I decided to abstain from all porn watching, or checking out pictures of hot non-porn celebrities on the web.

This has been going on for almost a couple of weeks now, and does seem to be having an effect. I was overly picky before, but now I am finding myself attracted to women I wasn't before. I'm not as obsessed with looks.

Of course, when I do come accross a picture of some hottie (d'oh! sorry about the pun) the effect is startling. Watching full-blown Hollywood movies is dangerous... a trailer for that Jessica Alba flick "Into the Blue" almost killed me.

I highly advise trying this out for any of you who find yourself overly picky.

 

[Dogfish]

if i'm able to avoid it in the vastness of the inet... luckily i don't watch tv.

worth a try, may go well w/ not jacking off for 3 weeks.

 

[MetalFortress]

Really, though, the abstaining isn't changing your perspective; it's just making you accept what you see as a 7, instead of only wanting what you might consider a 9.

I find more "realistic" girls, so to speak, to be hotter and turn me on more - more feminine, more natural, and more curves. Not fatties of course, but most hollywood hotties could probably be broken in half by a thrown dodgeball.

 

[paraguayandj]

Abstain from porn? I don't think so buddy

 

[Krassus]

So in other words: you weren't getting the women you wanted and instead of trying to better yourself so that you could, you revolved to make yourself attracted to less attractive women? Somebody slap this guy!

 

[Mission]

Actually not looking at porn or masturbating is smart. It raises your desire for women because you cannot relieve yourself, so you actually act more confident and project it in a subtle way, girls do react well to it, I suggest learning what you are like without porn, and then figure out how to emulate that, then you can return to porn if you want.

--Mission

 

[realsmoothie]

So in other words: you weren't getting the women you wanted and instead of trying to better yourself so that you could, you revolved to make yourself attracted to less attractive women? Somebody slap this guy!

I "revolved"? I'm not a planet.

And it's not "instead" of... it actually helps me have more time for other things... like bettering myself (this is stage two, though).

But the general point is understood. That's why I'm throwing it out there.

 

[Malachi]

Actually not looking at porn or masturbating is smart. It raises your desire for women because you cannot relieve yourself, so you actually act more confident and project it in a subtle way, girls do react well to it, I suggest learning what you are like without porn, and then figure out how to emulate that, then you can return to porn if you want.

--Mission

This guy is 100% ON THE MARK!

Acept you don't want to look at porn after cause i think it makes us lazy in a way.

 

[S1NN3R]

Not masturbating five times a day is one thing.

Trying to not even look at a hot girl because not looking makes it easier for you to accept that you aren't going to get somebody that hot is just dumb.

I was overly picky before, but now I am finding myself attracted to women I wasn't before.

Yeah, it's called "settling", and since when did it become a good thing?

 

[The_Lifter]

I might try this. One day.

 

[JHeights83rd]

Desperation

i dont wack off at all, and never have. im very sexually frustrated. My little bro started boning and he wacks off constistently (about 3 times a weeks)
ive been saying this for a minute. first of all, he used to think like you guys do, till he boned a girl, and learned the hard way, that he had to wack off. You wont have endurance for ****. If you cant put off the pleasure with your hand, how are you gonna stand a warm moist hole. This is one point.

originally posted by mission

Actually not looking at porn or masturbating is smart. It raises your desire for women because you cannot relieve yourself,

exactly, it raises your desire. it raises testosterone.
Desire = desperation
desire doesnt tailor itself into game and confidence what it does is, subconsciously, your D**k is screaming "feed me, anything, i dont care if its scraps, get it the fastest way possible"
You have soo much desire, and you are easily excited (both physically and mentally) this is sexual frustration. Having so much testosterone makes it impossible to completely control your d**k. This is thing that throws salt in afcs' game. this is why you have puzz whipped guys, theyre lady withdraws sex from you to make you want it more, so you are easy to manipulate. When your are excited state, you now have lost control of interaction. You will subconsciously drag convo out and other clingy behavior.

You cannot step to women with your d**k in your hand, ready and expecting to get sex from a women like some guy at a strip club. Your d**k just gets in the way of your game, it does not help you. Keep it in your pocket. Observe guys who get out of 2 year relationships, after 2 weeks.

Where the hell do you think desperation comes from???

 

[realsmoothie]

I think maybe we're talking about different levels of DJ'ing. I'm just turning my sexual life around... it's been awful for the majority of my 31 years. I know that I sit there and nitpick any girl that comes up, partially for an excuse to not say anything to her.

But a lot of you guys are much further along the path, you don't have to worry about this kind of thing.

So I think what I'm saying is that not looking at hot girl pictures might be good for those of us who are just starting.

Note that I didn't say anything about masturbation. That's a different thing entirely.

 

[LuciferSam]

I know what u are going through if you're abstaining from porn guys, i goy empathy for you.

Good luck