Just thought I'd throw out a quick analogy for becoming good with women. If you're like me, then you know what it's like to have ABSOLUTELY NO GAME. You're the equivalent of a boy with no muscles whatsoever... so you start going to the gym. Some people are benchpressing 180, while you're barely doing 60. So, how do you get to the level where you can benchpress 180? A combination of things....
1) determination
2) technique
3) diet
4) time
5) pain
In much the same way, there's a combination of things that you'll need to become good with women. The thought of approaching a woman brings up so much anxiety, and so much fear, that you actually breathe a sigh of relief when you make some excuse in your mind why you shouldn't make the approach. This is what I like to call "pussing out". It's the equivalent of going to the gym, only doing 60% of your maximum, and leaving after 20 minutes. On the other hand, if you go there with the GOAL in mind, not the instant gratification, you'll endure the pain, because you know that in time you'll get over the pain. Once approaching a woman loses it's pain, then it's time to start lifting heavier weights. Once you're at the level where you can do 120, 60lbs feels like feathers. In other words, once you can approach a group of women that are 7.5s, approaching a single '6' will be a piece of cake. Once you're at the level where you KNOW you can make a woman feel good, confidence will not be hard to find when meeting women.
So yeah, just remember whenever you're wondering whether or not you should make an approach, just think "no pain no gain", and you automatically won't put too much importance on this one girl.
1) determination
2) technique
3) diet
4) time
5) pain
In much the same way, there's a combination of things that you'll need to become good with women. The thought of approaching a woman brings up so much anxiety, and so much fear, that you actually breathe a sigh of relief when you make some excuse in your mind why you shouldn't make the approach. This is what I like to call "pussing out". It's the equivalent of going to the gym, only doing 60% of your maximum, and leaving after 20 minutes. On the other hand, if you go there with the GOAL in mind, not the instant gratification, you'll endure the pain, because you know that in time you'll get over the pain. Once approaching a woman loses it's pain, then it's time to start lifting heavier weights. Once you're at the level where you can do 120, 60lbs feels like feathers. In other words, once you can approach a group of women that are 7.5s, approaching a single '6' will be a piece of cake. Once you're at the level where you KNOW you can make a woman feel good, confidence will not be hard to find when meeting women.
So yeah, just remember whenever you're wondering whether or not you should make an approach, just think "no pain no gain", and you automatically won't put too much importance on this one girl.