No idea what to do at the moment.

[arcilitei34]

This is my story and its long
Well it all started out about a couple months ago, ive known her for about a month maybe 2 now. In the beginning she had a boyfriend and i had no idea what to do, not too long after i started beginning to know she tells me that she's having problems with her boyfriend and asks me for advice on how to break up with someone, i know im not the only person she turned to. Not too long after she broke up with her boyfriend.
After that i got to know her a lot better, we both live on opposite ends of the city, she lives in the rich area, i live in the semi-ghetto area, we both go to differant highschools. After about a month of talking to her and doing things with her, i confess that i have feelings for her, and she confesses that she has feelings for me back she also said that she was forcing herself not to let anything happen because she thought she wasnt ready. Oh to also top this off, we both work together, thats how i got to know her. I know that work relationships dont really work but im also on the lookout for a new job, i think my job sux
I thought maybe no biggie i'll just put some time into it we only get to see eachother about once or twice a week, we went out a couple times through the couple of weeks, movie, dinners, lunches, i thought there was chemistry between us. But as of 2 days ago we had this conversation again about waiting it out until she was ready, but this time she had no idea how she felt about me, after that point the conversation was over, she texted messaged me on my phone a couple hours after telling me that she was sorry for putting me through so much and that she didnt mean to. Now the interest i have for her and quite possibly her for me, isnt as great as it was before, and i have no idea what to do. I was thinking of just not even communicating to her at all for a couple days, but im not quite sure how i even got this far to begin with , any ideas anyone?
Thanks a bunch for feedback

 

[MacdaddyJr]

Dude, I'm sorry to break it to you but it's over. Next her. Never again admit your true feelings to a girl unless your secure she loves you and even then... ANyways....

READ THE BIBLE!!!!

It's over,you made too many mistakes. You can try Ganji games (look it up in the seach here) and you might have a chance in a month or two but you need to move on.

 

[jonny football hero]

Yeah man, next her. It seems you have what we call "oneitis".

 

[Axe]

Originally posted by arcilitei34
Now the interest i have for her and quite possibly her for me, isnt as great as it was before

Bull****, you're hung up over her. That's why you joined this forum and are asking complete strangers for advice.

But how does she feel about you is the question. She views you as a friend. If you continue on your current route you stand no chance of ever going farther then that (unless alcohol is involved )

Your choice of action here is as the other people said to move on, or you can cut off all contact with her for a *MINIMUM* of 2 to 3 weeks at which point you can ask her to go hang out again. If you do, do this.. don't confess your love to her. SHOW her how your feel, don't say. Read the bible, fastseduction.com, and sign up for daviddeanglo's newsletters for the best ways to do this.

Right after she broke up with her boyfriend, if you would have played your cards right and made advances, instead of acting like a little girl, and asking her how she feels about you, you could have probably made her yours from the way you made it sound.

 

[Porky]

He likes her and wants to pursue a relationship with her. That does not equal oneitis, since she isn't an all consuming obsession of his.

Back off for a while. Don't show any interst in her sexually, just act like you're her friend. To me it sounds like she's made up her mind about how she feels about you, but doesn't want to hurt you by saying that she no longer has feelings for you. Sorry. Avoid physical contact with her. No flirting, no touching.

That just might peak her interest level. Don't ignore her, but don't treat her like your best friend. Don't allow her to talk about her personal problems with you.