Nice Guys Vs Jerks

[lildevil]

Nice guys vs. jerkS:woo:
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The debate of nice guys vs. jerks has been raging for quite a long time. The nature of being a nice guy,
however, is commonly misunderstood. It is believed that being polite, considerate, friendly, tender, romantic,
etc. is what being a nice guy is all about and thus those qualities should be avoided, as it is the jerk, the
rude, the inconsiderate, the impolite, the rough guy who always gets the girl while the nice guy is waiting
outside in the pouring rain with flowers in his hand.
It doesn't mean that women prefer rude over polite, inconsiderate over considerate, etc. It all becomes
clear when we look at a very important issue often overlooked when trying to define what makes the jerks
beat the nice guys when it comes to getting the girls. It is sexuality - the jerks are not afraid to show that they
are sexual beings, while the nice guys hide their sexuality as a part of their agenda of being friendly, polite,
and courteous towards women.
Peta, Clifford's Seduction Newsletter: It dawned on me as it has, that the androgyny is key. Women fall
for bastards because they don't turn off the sexuality. nice guys think women will be terrified of their
sexuality, so they turn it off and all they get is women responding to their androgyny (sending all nice guys to
LJBF-land)

 

[tmpgstx]

Nice guys are laid back and humble (the nice guy with a backbone). Girls love these guys for relationships or getting married (after they have matured!).

Before the age of 30, they want a 'nice bastard'. In other words, someone they percieve as being nice deep down, but has a rough edge on the outside. This is more exciting. They don't want stability yet, but excitement.

 

[Bvbidd]

Wrong.

From actual experience you'd find out that being the least sexual is key. The less you want it the more they do.

I think what you mean is be a guy, some people might take that advice the wrong way and just become over-sexed and scary.

 

[Bonhomme]

Let's not confuse sexuality with overeagerness, Bvbidd.

The things that give the jerk the advantage over a lot of nice guys are perceived power and dominance, as well as not being shamed of their sexuality. But the man who's in charge, but also likeable is way above all the others -- for LTR purposes, at least. The jerk or cad may have an advantage for getting "no strings" sex because he's seen as more "disposable."

 

[tmpgstx]

The jerk or cad may have an advantage for getting "no strings" sex because he's seen as more "disposable."

This is a good point. It is also guilt-free for the girl most of the time. She can't miss what she doesn't hold any value with other than having a good time.

Where girls get caught up are the 'nice' girls who cator to jerks for lack of good self-esteem. The LSE nice girl is easy prey for jerks.