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[knglerxt]

Hello. I'm a newbie to this forum and have read most of the articles on this site. I think I'm beginning to understand the "game" now. Unfortunately, I haven't put much of this info to use yet. I've always been a quiet person, so walking up to a girl and initiating a conversation is a daunting task for me.

As you've probably guessed by now, I haven't been in many relationships. To tell you the truth, I have never had a girlfriend, and I just turned 24. I know, I know. I'm a loser. I think my recent birthday was kind of a wake up call. I've always expected girls to initiate contact with me, but I guess that's not the way it works. I figured something was wrong with me since girls never came up to me. I've realized now that it's my own fault because I didn't put myself out there. I avoided a lot of social situations.

Anyway, let me get to the point: How did you guys get up the nerve to do your first approach? I pretty much know what I need to do from reading the articles on this site, but I just can't seem to muster up enough nerve.

I missed a perfect chance today. I was in Food Lion earlier and saw this really cute brunette. I made it a point to make eye contact with her, but she kept looking down at the floor as she passed me. I wish now that I would have at least said "Hi" to her. I don't know if I intimidated her or what. It seems like not doing anything is worse than trying and getting rejected. At least then I would know.

 

[lileddy1985]

My friend you came the right place. First of all don't call yourself a loser man. Don't put yourself down. Remember "Confidence" Their are alot of guys here who will help you man and I even a e-book libaery you can check out. I have to say you have a lot to learn so can you become a Don Juan.

My friend becoming successful with women will be a long and hard path but when you make it you will be happy.

 

[nishbuk]

As you've probably guessed by now, I haven't been in many relationships. To tell you the truth, I have never had a girlfriend, and I just turned 24. I know, I know. I'm a loser

WHAT!?! Cut that **** out RIGHT NOW! You're already writing yourself off as a loser?! DUDE. You are 24!!! You're young and ****ing ripe! You are a MAN. BE IT.

When a thought like that pops into your head again, I want you to physically slap yourself and say, "I'm tired of sitting around. I am a MAN. I have WORTH". Everytime you get that thought in your head...

You need this:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/djbc.pdf

Again...because you (like me) really need to do this:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/djbc.pdf

 

[Brainman]

hehe, Whenever I catch myself calling myself things like "loser", I imagine how it would feel if someone else called me that. Unconsciously, it has the same effect

 

[knglerxt]

Originally posted by nishbuk
WHAT!?! Cut that **** out RIGHT NOW! You're already writing yourself off as a loser?! DUDE. You are 24!!! You're young and ****ing ripe! You are a MAN. BE IT.

When a thought like that pops into your head again, I want you to physically slap yourself and say, "I'm tired of sitting around. I am a MAN. I have WORTH". Everytime you get that thought in your head...
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Yeah. I know. I shouldn't say that. It's just that most guys my age have been in at least a couple relationships. I just feel like I've missed out on so much.

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by knglerxt
Yeah. I know. I shouldn't say that. It's just that most guys my age have been in at least a couple relationships. I just feel like I've missed out on so much.

Stop it. That's in the past. You can either cry over the things you've missed, or you can create your future. Let me, let you figure out which is more rewarding. Man, boot camp. Really. Do the boot camp. You and me both need to do it. And I'm going to. (Getting over a DUMPage.)


Don't get caught in the "But I missed so much" trap. Look to your future, and serioulsy VISUALIZE yourself as a player. It's possible. You can do it.
You are on the right track. You've given yourself the gift of coming to this site, so that right there is EVIDENCE that you are READY TO CHANGE!
So you have the cards, you have the hand. Let's see some "All in" action, and you taking the pot!
Now that you've done all the reading, there really is only one thing left for you to do. TAKE ACTION.

"Stop giving a **** what other people are thinking about you".

How do you do that? Simple.
You get out there and take action. For awhile you will still care what people think. But eventually you will begin to care less and less, and your confidence will grow and grow. This is somethign that we both must do, you and me. Make no mistake, I'm a man of action and I can tell that you are READY to become one as well. You must take action. Again, this is the ACTION you must take if you wish to stop regretting your life:

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/djbc.pdf

Does it look scary at first? "Could I really go out into the world and DO that?"
Damn right it seems scary. But let me tell you what's scarier:

The thought of you turning THIRTY sitting at home alone playing World of Warcraft on your computer, or watching TV with your "friends", NEVER having had a girlfriend, and still carrying your flower around...which btw has withered and died.

I want you to think about that?
Which is scarier? A girl saying no? Or the future that you will have if don't do this for yourself, RIGHT NOW. For your own sake, grow the **** up, become and man, and get the hell out there, and get some ass.