New to the bar scene

[Vanilla]

My last bar experiences haven't been too good. I end up being by myself drinking, which I'm ok with because it's better than staying at home. However that doesn't get me any girls. My main problem is that I don't know what I should do when I first walk in. It seemed that everyone was busy chatting with other people and I didn't know how to get involved in the conversations.

I'm planning to go out tonight and try again, but would like some advice beforehand.

 

[Lord Shinra]

Bring a wingman and just start chatting up a storm. Theres bound to be women who will want to socialize.

That and dont go by yourself. Makes you look lonely.

 

[Vanilla]

Bring a wingman and just start chatting up a storm. Theres bound to be women who will want to socialize.

That and dont go by yourself. Makes you look lonely.

I don't have anyone to go with. Are there any options for going alone?

 

[Lord Shinra]

I wouldn't know, I haven't been brave enough yet to do that. MAybe just try and attach to a group with a common goal and hope for the best.

Going alone, IMO, is a horrendous way of approach because it leaves you exposed and with no backup, sometimes it takes a toll on your confidence.

 

[skirtChaser]

go to a bar with a live band, that way you have something to look at, eventually somebody will talk to you.

 

[kdnash82]

Nothing wrong with going out by yourself. I've done it a few times, but never to a place where no one knows me. Basically, I attend a club/bar so much with my friends, when i go alone, it doesn't matter because I'm a familiar face. By the time I actually get in the place, I've been greeted by the security with head of the line priviledges and bartenders by name and in my eyes, this gives me social proof.

Now with that said, there have been a couple of times where I have gone to a bar/club by myself that I've never attended before. I admit, it's hard because you feel out of place, but the key is to just start talking to people. Make sure you don't get vibe that you're the annoying dude, but talk, let people know you're there and you're alive. If you're interesting in what you do and say, they will respond.

 

[skirtChaser]

screw the social proof, just go in and order a couple of straight shots of whiskey, then ya got some 80 proof.

 

[kdnash82]

screw the social proof, just go in and order a couple of straight shots of whiskey, then ya got some 80 proof.

Yeah... cause everyone likes talking to the drunk lonely guy... Tool

 

[skirtChaser]

yeah getting drunk is a sure way of not getting laid. two drinks helps, three, four drinks makes you sloppy, five drinks and you are going home alone.

 

[Killer_Demo]

if ur a confident/social person i'd say go a nite on the town by YOURSELF...dont have to rely on anybody else.

 

[Randallpink83]

I go out alone A LOT!!! By preference... I have wings and friends that go out all the time too, but I'm telling you, some times you gotta try this stuff alone. It brings out certain areas of the game.

So yes... Go out alone, especially if you have no choice, there is nothing wrong with it.

Rule #1. Don't get drunk!!!! Have a few drinks to loosen up if you must, but don't get drunk. For one its bad for game, and for two what if things went terribly wrong while your drunk? Who would look after you?

Rule #2. Smile and make sure your body language is conveying fun and confidence... You don't want to be seen as a sad loner. You want to be seen as a confident man just enjoying himself.

Rule #3. Make yourself approach somebody, anybody within 2 minutes of walking in the venue... maybe even sooner. Say anything.. Just make sure you're talking to someone and smiling right off, it will set your attitude and frame right... even if its just a dude standing around watching the dancefloor "Hey man, this seems like a pretty chill place!! Wow some hot chicks here tonight!! Is it always like this?"... or even better approach a set right off!!! This would be a million times better...

I could go on and on with rules. Really its no different then normal game if your with someone. Usually when I approach a set and I'm with people I'm basically alone at that moment anyhow.

One advantage to going alone is it is Fvcking DO OR DIE!!!! You either are going to make things happen, be social, approach alot or you will literally be sitting there alone and creepy...Terrible... That thought right there is why I'm so effective alone. I HAVE to make it happen or else its just going to suck... DO OR DIE!!!!!

Get yourself pumped up dude... Its going to be massive when you start really working the club/bar and your alone.. Its tuff. I know I been there. Its hard to motivate yourself.

Just make a fool out of yourself. Let go.. Get rejected and love it... Hell even be creepy in the beginning if that will work... just mush mush mush mother fvcker and have fun... Don't feel stupid until the morning "My god... did i really bark at those poor girls and then dance the macarena for them???" hahaha... Just do it... DO OR DIE!!!

One you have totally blown away all care and embarrassment out of being alone then you will start running tight game.