New problem I've been coming across "everything happened so fast"

[tryst type]

How do you progress from her being nervous and not responding to kino to sleeping with her on the first date?

I just keep building comfort with humor and a carefree demeaner then at the end of the date I kiss them and they tend to give in and let loose so to speak.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Basically thats a female player line.

She got what she wanted (sex), but shes not feeling it enough for it to go past that encounter.

Simple. No need for you guys to spin your own hamster wheels on it.

Nope, incorrect.

She may have been feeling more before they had sex, thinking longer term. But because they had sex so soon, the whole dynamic gets fvcked up. It's hard getting to know someone after you have sex.

Think of it this way, the sex is the ultimate bonding moment. How much do you know that person up until you have sex with them, how much has been invested in the relationship?

If sex happens too soon, it's almost like it stunts the relationship's growth.

 

[Jaylan]

Nope, incorrect.

She may have been feeling more before they had sex, thinking longer term. But because they had sex so soon, the whole dynamic gets fvcked up. It's hard getting to know someone after you have sex.

Think of it this way, the sex is the ultimate bonding moment. How much do you know that person up until you have sex with them, how much has been invested in the relationship?

If sex happens too soon, it's almost like it stunts the relationship's growth.

Not incorrect.

Talk to more young women. As someone whos been in the college life more recently than you, I am speaking on what I saw and what women have told me. The college hookup culture facilitates a lot of woman quickly having sex with a dude, and then moving on quickly.

Experience life and get out there. Trust me, when a chick bails after sex, either she never wanted to go further to begin with, or she was turned off by the encounter.

Women who truly want long term dont bail after quick sex with a guy they actually see potential with. Its generally the guy who bails on the long term minded female after quick sex. A chick who bails after quick sex, is a chick who only wanted a fling, or a chick who got turned off by how bad the sex may have been, or she has other options.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Not incorrect.

Talk to more young women. As someone whos been in the college life more recently than you, I am speaking on what I saw and what women have told me.

Experience life and get out there. Trust me, when a chick bails after sex, either she never wanted to go further to begin with, or she was turned off by the encounter.

Talk to women and ask them? That's your answer....

Really dude, well since you brought up the college thing, I'll relate it to that, as much as I've brought it up, I could right a thesis on this whole fvcking thing. I've been telling you clown bucks since the day I got on here that ONS's don't turn into relationships, no matter how much she liked it or not. Believe me, I would know. Then low and behold, someone pulls up a post where Pook talks about the same $hit. I can post the threads if you'd like to see them.

And FYI: don't ever listen to a chick when it comes to dating advice. You should know that by now Jaylan.

 

[Jaylan]

Reread my last post. And yes, Ive seen relationships come out of quick hookups...but thats usually because the guy chose to stick around. Like I said, a girl bails after quick sex because either she always intended to, didnt enjoy the sex much, or had a better option.

Im not wasting my time arguing with you any further. I thought you were leaving this site btw? xD Better you post here rather than harass me in PMs I guess.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Im not wasting my time arguing with you any further. I thought you were leaving this site btw? xD Better you post here rather than harass me in PMs I guess.

Hey, there we go, mis-direction. Respectable move.

Just so you know, there are probably a few different reasons why a woman might bail after sex, or a man might bail. Either way, even if neither of them bail and they both decide to stick around, all it's ever going to be is a FB relationship, or maybe a get a drink then bang relationship. Anything else and it's not going to last. That's it..... maybe a one or two percent will be something different. But really, it's all about the dynamic, and how the relationship starts off.

I'm just trying to spread the word here Jaylan.... I think you'd argue with yourself if no one else was around.

 

[Jaylan]

Hey, there we go, mis-direction. Respectable move.

I made my point, and theres no need to further debate it. Thats all.

However it does appear to bother you that several people have noticed you still posting here after you did your attention seeking "exit" before. I just thought I would fill them in to the fact that you also get butthurt and send whiny PMs to people.

Call it misdirection? Whatever you want brah xD. Thats what happens when you decide to insult people and call them clowns because they disagree with you. You get called out.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

I made my point, and theres no need to further debate it. Thats all.

However it does appear to bother you that several people have noticed you still posting here after you did your attention seeking "exit" before. I just thought I would fill them in to the fact that you also get butthurt and send whiny PMs to people.

Call it misdirection? Whatever you want brah xD. Thats what happens when you decide to insult people and call them clowns because they disagree with you. You get called out.

PM to you.

Not PM's to people.

But hey just make up $hit while you go along. Also, while you're at it, why don't you make up a fake account to agree with you when no one else will.

Also, the PM (singular) that I sent you was well deserved Why don't you post it, since you're crying about it so much. Maybe you'll get some sympathy.

The rest of the $hit in your post (that has nothing to do about this thread), I'll explain on another day. Oh, and sorry I called you a clown. Do you feel better? I'd give you a hug if I could.

 

[Jaylan]

PM to you.

Not PM's to people.

But hey just make up $hit while you go along. Also, why don't you make up a fake account to agree with you when no one else will.

Also, the PM (singular) that I sent you was well deserved Why don't you post it, since you're crying about it so much. Maybe you'll get some sympathy.

tell me moar brah xD

 

[Valentino14]

Why should this be a problem? You're getting the fvcks right? some people over think this way too much. You can have a ONS and have a relationship btw it might not last long but it happens.

 

[ScoundrelDays]

My current gf and I had a similar situation when we first met. When she said the same to me I put the ball in her court. I stopped initiating conversations and going out with her. After she got nothing from me for a while she startedd hitting me up and saying she messed up bla bla bla.

Of course I wasn't completely convinced and made her Constantly prove to me that she was into me. So don't text her let her come to you. If she likes you she will text you. If she does text you DO NOT ask her to meet up somewhere. That is now her job. Your job now is to meet other girls and have fun.

 

[tryst type]

Ok guys, maybe this is a test? The last girl who said this sent me a text last night "I've been thinking about you"

I replied "Oh?"

She said "yeah and mostly lustful thoughts..."

I haven't replied yet but wtf? I feel she's trying to get a reaction out of me

 

[3agle 3yes]

...Then afterwards or the next day I get a text along the lines of "I had fun and you seem great but this all happened so fast and I'm just not ready"...

What a girl says and what they do are two different things...

If she wasn't ready she wouldn't have fvcked you.

 

[TheCWord]

What a girl says and what they do are two different things...

If she wasn't ready she wouldn't have fvcked you.

Yup. Your reply should be something like, "Bad girl. Let's catch up this week. What nights work for you?"

If she doesn't immediately book a date to act on those lustful thoughts she's just an AW and you can feel free to never reply to her ever again.