"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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New potential plate is posing a challenge

zinc4

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Guys, i had this date last night with a solid HB8 who i number closed a few days ago at the train station here. We ate some dinner and drank some beer....not too much as i was hungover from the previous day.

This chick was obviously interested acting...lot's of kino from her laughing blah blah...then i got her back to my apartment...and she put a bit of a guard up because it's a small studio apartment....and the only places to sit are my bed and a small chair...she sat on the chair which really surprised me...usually i have an easy time bringing them back to my place.

So put in a quick movie but she said she could only stay a while because had to get up early next day blah blah..

I escalated kino sitting near her...thumb wrestling and hands on her thighs...at first she was reluctant...but i kept persisting...and because of the fact she was sitting on the chair..a kiss was difficult to get in reach....so i asked if she was ticklish...said no and pulled baclk a little....then i said are you a good kisser...her face turned red and said no.....and i said show me and pulled her to me but she turned and laughed and said she has a strict first date no kiss rule.

And said all of ex boyfriends had to wait until the 2nd date to get a kiss...i said well, i am not your ex bf grinning and pulled her in kissing her face....she was then starting to open up physically and grabbing my hands and arms...when some music started playing the movie...that movie the drive..the opening scene...i grabbed her hands and was dancing with her while she was sitting down...she really liked this and i pulled her in for a big hug kissing her again... almost reaching her lips...and this time she reciprocated and gave me a big kiss on my cheek and said we have to wait for the 2nd date and that i was a naughty boy....i was like damn right i am naughty...she was laughing blah blah..

But it was time for her to go and i was fine with this....i told her i nwould walk her to get a taxi..she said i speak Chinese to i can get a txi...now to be honest i really didn't feel like helping her....but i have been hit by a stigma of being a player lately with a lot of women...so i said it must be a player test...i better walk her out....so we walked out and she haeld my hand on the way down the stairs and we talked about our schedules this week...she said she has free time on wednesday and wanted to see me..

I said ok, should be fine....anyways, i got a local hotel to call her a taxi and we waited together....i teased her a lot though...and made fun of her height...like i said where's annie where's annie looking around and then oh there she is! looking way down....she looked a little hurt almost and said you are so bad...i said i was just joking and short women are attractive...and then we talked some more until the taxi came and at the end she reached for my arm and said see you on Wednesday!

So anyways.....once again, because i have been called a player by so many recent women i have been seeing and it has blown up in my face several times...i decided to send her a quick text an hour or so after she left or so and just said, hey, i had a good time tonight!.....that was last night around 10 pm and now it's morning and no reply........this is the first time i have ever texted right after a first date..it's always the girl who does first...my recent anxiety of looking like a hardcore player is messing with me...

But the challenge is enticing...most women spread the legs easily as soon as we hit my apartment and i have to admit they get boring quickly afterwards in my eyes....what do you guys think about all of this. The no kiss rule was kind of shocking to me at first. And the no text back took me by surprise as well.

So i am stuck feeling on how to proceed from here...not trying to sound arrogant, I am not used to post first date challenges...we had the date set up on Wednesday but no official time yet.....what's a good way to proceed from here? I have my own plan, but want to see what others think.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well, recieved a few texts today...the challenge is officially over, I still find her very attractive, fortunately, though..
 

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If you leave something big on the chair, she HAS sit on the bed ;)

That's all I got- have fun.
 
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