New here, question about phone numbers

[Purple_Haze]

Ok so I'm back to dating after being out of the scene for 8 years while married. Almost feels like I'm having to learn to date all over again.

My question is about a recent situation with a woman I work with. Basically she initiated the first conversation with me, just some small talk about if I drove a particular car. We talked a few times briefly over the past couple weeks because she always walks by my desk during her break. Recently she started touching me on the arm or shoulder when she would walk by and say hi. A couple of buddies that sit next to me and myself as well all got the impression she seemed interested in me. So I decided to give her my phone number yesterday when she stopped by to say hi. I may have come off as slight nervous, but I felt like I tried to give her the impression that it was a big deal if she called me. I just said to call me some time and we could get together or whatever. Well she took the number, and later that day, she came buy, and asked if I knew that she was married. I said no I wasn't aware of that, and she dropped the whole "but we can still be friends" line. Then she said she wanted to set up me with a friend of hers, to which I replied sure.

Basically, I'm just wondering, do I take something like this at face value, or did she basically get turned off by the way I approached her, aka giving her my number instead of getting hers, possibly coming off as either nervous or disinterested when I told her to call me, etc.

I'm excited to be back in the dating game again, but at the same time, I kinda feel like I'm gonna have to learn how to attract women all over again. I have no problems in the physical looks area, but I really need to improve when it comes to my entire approach to woman I want to get with.

 

[Teej]

While we have no way of knowing for sure, she's probably married if she says she is... why are you over-analyzing?

 

[Purple_Haze]

While we have no way of knowing for sure, she's probably married if she says she is... why are you over-analyzing?

Yeah I tend to do that, I probably need to stop doing that :nono:

 

[Kevin Feng]

Hey buddy,

Good to hear that you're back in the game. It's not an easy game, but it's definitely a fun and rewarding one.

Just a year ago, I was struggling with women and after I got on the VH1, I've had a chance to work with all the best like Mystery,Matador, and Asian Playboy.

Your problem is the way you approached the situation, you shouldn't just give your number away to a girl, unless she's REALLY into you, she's not going to call you back and honestly in our society, it's just expected that you ASK women out on dates.

Asian Playboy is a big proponent of direct game for the reason that it forces men to be more alpha in their interactions. Going back, what you should have done is set the date up, gotten her number and called her.

Women like alpha men, not hesitant ones.

Hope this helps, shoot me a PM if you have any more detailed questions.

-Kevin

 

[Purple_Haze]

Hey buddy,

Good to hear that you're back in the game. It's not an easy game, but it's definitely a fun and rewarding one.

Just a year ago, I was struggling with women and after I got on the VH1, I've had a chance to work with all the best like Mystery,Matador, and Asian Playboy.

Your problem is the way you approached the situation, you shouldn't just give your number away to a girl, unless she's REALLY into you, she's not going to call you back and honestly in our society, it's just expected that you ASK women out on dates.

Asian Playboy is a big proponent of direct game for the reason that it forces men to be more alpha in their interactions. Going back, what you should have done is set the date up, gotten her number and called her.

Women like alpha men, not hesitant ones.

Hope this helps, shoot me a PM if you have any more detailed questions.

-Kevin

Thanks for the reply. Yeah I figured I just need to man up and ask for the digits, can't take the easy way out by giving my number.

 

[COD]

DIPPING YOUR PEN IN COMPANY INK.........never a good idea. Some women are natuarally touchy feely and enjoy the flattery of being asked out, despite the fact she may be very much so NOT available aka has a happy marriage.

These so called indicators of Interest are not genuine as opposed to being in a bar or club.

GETTING INVOLVED WITH MARRIED WOMEN-again not the best course of action first time back (revisted) in the single scene. Didnt you yourself just get divorced...........and now you are contemplating initiating with a married women, dude what are you thinking. Is she really all that, ask yourself what could possible GO WRONG with persuing A MARRIED WOMAN FROM WORK.

Theres literally a ton of SINGLE AVAILABLE women around you.......I would not advise the current path you are on as an initial phase of getting back into the dating scene.

WHAT SHOULD U HAVE DONE-just played it up----"hey sister, are you stalking me, U keep walking by and touching me......I aint that easy". or somethign along that line. VOMITING your digits on a woman also not recomended.........ALWAYS EXCHANGE #'s, trade #'s, or skip that all together and go on an instant date, but keep it casual...........example:

Hey what are you doing for lunch.............then after you had some 1 on 1 time....then U can decide if a number exchage is worthy. Cant tell U how many times I extracted digits only to regret it after 1 date. So if u can do the mini date first then get her digitis.........always works to your advantage.

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