New Approaches at College

[WrEcKLeSS2000]

Hey DJ's, I haven't been posting much lately, But I have been doing alot of reading on the boards...I've been going through alot of stages in my life right now...Mostly inner struggles to develop myself which is a difficult task but I'm trying...

I still have no girlfriend or even a real date for that matter which is fine...But it does bother me because It makes me think that I'm ugly and unattractive even though I know I'm not...But i Just can't help but think it.


Anyway I want to talk about these approaches and how they have affected me...

Please excuse how it's typed out...I typed it out on Instant Messenger and I didn't feel like retyping it so that's why its like this...

ok they were all at school i was walking aroundlooking for girls the first one i saw was in a rushbut i stopped her and asked her if there were any parties going on
then she said she didn't no
and said she was going to her dorm and to get some sleep
so she just freaking rushed off before i could say anything else
what a ho
anyway
her loss
ok next approach
it was this girl sitting by herself
the problem off the bat was that she was smoking
and since i cant stand smoke
i wasn't too happy about it
anyway i still talked to her
we got in a pretty decent conversation
the convo went well
then the girl accused me of taking drugs which I dont
like out of nowhere
im like what the hell
maybe she was joking
she probably was
anyway it caught me by surprise im still stumbling over my words anyway
after that drug comment thing
she all of a sudden says she has to go
and said nice meeting you
then left before i could close
i didn't really give a crap cause
she seemed like a lowlife
anyway her loss
next
i approached a 2 set
they were sitting smoking
i swear like it seems that everyone smokes on campus
its annoying as hell
so i went up to them
and asked then whats going on
they said nothing
then some dude interrupts me
and starts talking to the girls
so i just left after that
they seemed like druggies anyway
ok so thats it, im at least happy i approached
but still
with no success it makes me think i cant attract any girls
its a killer on my ego man
i am happy that i approached so no regret there

So there they are...Comments are welcome

 

[JiGGhaMan]

It's not a big deal. The last 4 girls I approached didn't want to talk to me. They were HB5s and HB6s on my scale. And when I first started I didn't get a phone number until after the 15th approach.

I wasn't doing any attracting anyways. I'm trying to get my approach anxiety straightened out first. Don't worry about it, just keep on approaching.

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by WrEcKLeSS2000
Hey DJ's, I haven't been posting much lately, But I have been doing alot of reading on the boards...I've been going through alot of stages in my life right now...Mostly inner struggles to develop myself which is a difficult task but I'm trying...

I still have no girlfriend or even a real date for that matter which is fine...But it does bother me because It makes me think that I'm ugly and unattractive even though I know I'm not...But i Just can't help but think it.


Anyway I want to talk about these approaches and how they have affected me...

Please excuse how it's typed out...I typed it out on Instant Messenger and I didn't feel like retyping it so that's why its like this...

ok they were all at school i was walking aroundlooking for girls the first one i saw was in a rushbut i stopped her and asked her if there were any parties going on
then she said she didn't no
and said she was going to her dorm and to get some sleep
so she just freaking rushed off before i could say anything else
what a ho
anyway
her loss
ok next approach
it was this girl sitting by herself
the problem off the bat was that she was smoking
and since i cant stand smoke
i wasn't too happy about it
anyway i still talked to her
we got in a pretty decent conversation
the convo went well
then the girl accused me of taking drugs which I dont
like out of nowhere
im like what the hell
maybe she was joking
she probably was
anyway it caught me by surprise im still stumbling over my words anyway
after that drug comment thing
she all of a sudden says she has to go
and said nice meeting you
then left before i could close
i didn't really give a crap cause
she seemed like a lowlife
anyway her loss
next
i approached a 2 set
they were sitting smoking
i swear like it seems that everyone smokes on campus
its annoying as hell
so i went up to them
and asked then whats going on
they said nothing
then some dude interrupts me
and starts talking to the girls
so i just left after that
they seemed like druggies anyway
ok so thats it, im at least happy i approached
but still
with no success it makes me think i cant attract any girls
its a killer on my ego man
i am happy that i approached so no regret there

So there they are...Comments are welcome

Definitely man listen to Jigga. Don't sweat those skanks like that. And as for you thinking that you're unattractive-throw that shyte out the window! Realize that not every girl is going to want you-Heck, in a day you could probably approach 10 different women and get shot down by all of them but not because there's something wrong with you-but because you just might notbe their type. Attraction for women and men are different I'm learning. For a woman its more emotional, what you can make them feel-for us guys its more "Damn she's hot I want a piece of that"! So don't sell yourself short Wreckless-you may be ugly-which I doubt-but alwyas realize that there's some guy out who's blind or crippled or can't speak>.Realize that as bad you may think you have there's always someone worse off than you..YOU WILL FIND THAT SUCCESS WITH WOMEN I KNOW IT-BUT YOU HAVE TO WANT IT LIKE YOU WANT MONEY.

STay Strong and Don't Give UP! We ALL KNOW YOU CAN DO IT!

 

[squirrels]

What're you trying to accomplish here? Are you just trying to work up the nerve to speak to women? If so, KUDOS to you! When I started out as a freshman in college, I'd go down to the park on-campus by the fountains and talk to drunk girls chilling on the benches late saturday night, just for the hell of it. (this was pre-SoSuave LOL)

If you were actually INTERESTED in getting to know these girls and not just working out your approach-anxiety, then you're going to have to take a different angle. Think about it:

Girl 1 rushes off
Girl 2 accuses you of being on drugs
Girls 3 and 4 ignore you and talk to some other dude

I think you need to relax and be less concerned about getting the "#close". You've taken the first step...talking to women. Now instead of trying to jump right into romance, just converse with them. Try to pick things out about her or the environment that you notice that might make good entry points into conversation. Learn to notice when girls would be susceptible to talking to you...when she's talking to her friends or running off to her dorm are NOT good times. Entering or leaving the same class, sitting outside studying or chilling, those are better times, plus they give you something in common to talk about.

Also, you may want to look into your appearance and basic social skills. If you're going to approach strangers in unlikely situations, it can't hurt to be confident in your conversation skills and your appearance ahead of time...you said yourself you're stumbling over your words. You need to be relaxed in that situation. If you go up to a stranger all tense, they are going to naturally sense that and become tense/guarded. If you just relax and start running your mouth, they are more likely to give you a chance.

BTW...an HB5 isn't really H at all.

 

[Duke]

Originally posted by WrEcKLeSS2000
Hey DJ's, I haven't been posting much lately, But I have been doing alot of reading on the boards...I've been going through alot of stages in my life right now...Mostly inner struggles to develop myself which is a difficult task but I'm trying...

I still have no girlfriend or even a real date for that matter which is fine...But it does bother me because It makes me think that I'm ugly and unattractive even though I know I'm not...But i Just can't help but think it.


Anyway I want to talk about these approaches and how they have affected me...

Please excuse how it's typed out...I typed it out on Instant Messenger and I didn't feel like retyping it so that's why its like this...

ok they were all at school i was walking aroundlooking for girls the first one i saw was in a rushbut i stopped her and asked her if there were any parties going on
then she said she didn't no
and said she was going to her dorm and to get some sleep
so she just freaking rushed off before i could say anything else
what a ho
anyway
her loss
ok next approach
it was this girl sitting by herself
the problem off the bat was that she was smoking
and since i cant stand smoke
i wasn't too happy about it
anyway i still talked to her
we got in a pretty decent conversation
the convo went well
then the girl accused me of taking drugs which I dont
like out of nowhere
im like what the hell
maybe she was joking
she probably was
anyway it caught me by surprise im still stumbling over my words anyway
after that drug comment thing
she all of a sudden says she has to go
and said nice meeting you
then left before i could close
i didn't really give a crap cause
she seemed like a lowlife
anyway her loss
next
i approached a 2 set
they were sitting smoking
i swear like it seems that everyone smokes on campus
its annoying as hell
so i went up to them
and asked then whats going on
they said nothing
then some dude interrupts me
and starts talking to the girls
so i just left after that
they seemed like druggies anyway
ok so thats it, im at least happy i approached
but still
with no success it makes me think i cant attract any girls
its a killer on my ego man
i am happy that i approached so no regret there

So there they are...Comments are welcome

Alright man... first thing that struck me about this post, aside from you having the balls to open, is the fact that you're viewing all these normal events in a negative light. A girl was on her way to her dorm to go to sleep so now she's a "****ing *****" ? Dude, she just didn't feel like talking at the moment. That doesn't make her a bad person. And if she was making up some BS excuse, that still doesn't put her in the wrong. Take responsibility and figure out what it is that provokes a girl to snub you and fix it.

When the girl accused you of taking drugs, it was probably because you were really tense... as you know, girls MIRROR whatever state you're in. So she intuited that nervous energy and thought it was weird and that you were on drugs. A friend I know from ASF has gotten similar responses with girls thinking he's on drugs. It's because he treats meeting girls like some BIG EVENT. He treats it like it's not normal. That it's abnormal.

When girls told him they thought he was on drugs, he was not CHILLED OUT. He was acting in a way that wasn't NORMAL to him. And they sensed it. Just realize that your state transfers, man. So come in relaxed as possible.

When that guy interrupted you, that was not your cue to walk off in disgust. There's something called AMOG tactics designed exactly for this situation. Either befriend the guy and destroy his game by talking about LOGICAL topics ("Hey man, where are you from? Cool, you go to this university? Ah..") or if he seems like hes intentionally being rude, hit him with an AMOG line. DON'T RUN OFF. That signals low value to the girls and also increases the AMOG's.

Good job on approaching. Just relax. I reccomend STOP reading seduction sh!t for a few weeks and just get back to normal reality. The community will sort of seem like a cult after a while and you'll see that you don't have to be a super seduction nerd extraordinaire to talk to girls. It will become a part of your persona because it's natural, instead of FORCING it because some super-nerd on the internet told you to.

Again, good job. Keep ya chin up and realize that you got more balls than most guys. Just relax and stay positive.

About looks... ya got nothing to worry about, man. A couple weeks ago, I saw this fat disgusting dude with poor grooming holding hands with a super-hot girl. This, while I'm sitting in a restaurant by myself, looking out the window in total astonishment. At that moment I stopped worrying about my looks. Do what you can-- but for god sakes don't let it cause you pressure when you're out meeting people. That's the last thing you need.

Cheers amigo,
-Duke