I REALLY NEED SOME GOOD ADVICE. IM NOT GOING TO LET HER GO UNLESS I REALLY HAVE TOO. Please try to analyze this and give some good feedback it would be really appreciated. IM WILLING TO GO GREAT DISTANCES FOR THIS GIRL. SHE IS WORTH IT.
This girl and I have been dating for about 9 months im 22 and shes 24. I guess you can call her my gf or as of right now friend. Im getting pushed into the friend zone and she is driving me crazy. There has been a string of events that have lead to this:
- I find myself chasing her.
-I have called her the last 3 days and she doesn't call me back until late at night.
- She is acting very distant, short on the phone I dont know if she wants anything to do with me anymore and I find myself feeling huge pressure and overwhelming feelings to talk to her cause I dont want to lose her.
- Last night when I called her twice she called back late and Iasked whats up with her and she said I cant be bugging her with this right now and was short and shell get around to it.
- Im going crazy because I called her the second time last night and left a message saying why are you acting like this if you want to act like that then do it. I guess we shouldnt talk anymore and thanks for everything and have a good life. She called back 2 mintues after I left the message.
-So I dont know what to do either. I want to fix this whole mess. I have to fight against her friends also who are probably telling her to leave.
HERE IS WHY I AM ACTING LIKE THIS:
- Broke up with her about a week last week because she needed space.
- She called and left a message to fix things a week later.
- Before I could call her back she left another message saying my mom left a message saying all this messed up stuff to her like stay away from my son and called her obscene names. My mom called cause she heard I was upset with her. Didnt expect her to do that.
- Now gf is really unsure if she wants to continue on. She wanted to before my mom said that sh*t to her.
- I told gf that if we can get through this together then will be stronger and blah blah, care about you, love you etc.
- When she has a big problem between me and her she shuts down during the week because she has grad school to deal with and its frustrating for me.
- This situtation is something different in the aspect of how I should act. She didnt do anything wrong in this instance. This basically puts everything on the line. She can agree to fix things but I probably have to fix 98% of everything. I can't just try to ignore and distant my self and her let her come to her senses. She is already doing that.
She I just not answer my phone until sunday or something. Obviously I am going to stop calling her for a while. What else can I do? I dont want to push her away by acting all stupid.
PS She had a light period last week which stopped after one day. So thats another great thing to deal with.
This girl and I have been dating for about 9 months im 22 and shes 24. I guess you can call her my gf or as of right now friend. Im getting pushed into the friend zone and she is driving me crazy. There has been a string of events that have lead to this:
- I find myself chasing her.
-I have called her the last 3 days and she doesn't call me back until late at night.
- She is acting very distant, short on the phone I dont know if she wants anything to do with me anymore and I find myself feeling huge pressure and overwhelming feelings to talk to her cause I dont want to lose her.
- Last night when I called her twice she called back late and Iasked whats up with her and she said I cant be bugging her with this right now and was short and shell get around to it.
- Im going crazy because I called her the second time last night and left a message saying why are you acting like this if you want to act like that then do it. I guess we shouldnt talk anymore and thanks for everything and have a good life. She called back 2 mintues after I left the message.
-So I dont know what to do either. I want to fix this whole mess. I have to fight against her friends also who are probably telling her to leave.
HERE IS WHY I AM ACTING LIKE THIS:
- Broke up with her about a week last week because she needed space.
- She called and left a message to fix things a week later.
- Before I could call her back she left another message saying my mom left a message saying all this messed up stuff to her like stay away from my son and called her obscene names. My mom called cause she heard I was upset with her. Didnt expect her to do that.
- Now gf is really unsure if she wants to continue on. She wanted to before my mom said that sh*t to her.
- I told gf that if we can get through this together then will be stronger and blah blah, care about you, love you etc.
- When she has a big problem between me and her she shuts down during the week because she has grad school to deal with and its frustrating for me.
- This situtation is something different in the aspect of how I should act. She didnt do anything wrong in this instance. This basically puts everything on the line. She can agree to fix things but I probably have to fix 98% of everything. I can't just try to ignore and distant my self and her let her come to her senses. She is already doing that.
She I just not answer my phone until sunday or something. Obviously I am going to stop calling her for a while. What else can I do? I dont want to push her away by acting all stupid.
PS She had a light period last week which stopped after one day. So thats another great thing to deal with.
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