Need some Marriage Game!!!

[players187]

I need some DJ tips on how to have a successful marriage. I've been with my girl for over 4 years and were about to get married. She's really stressed out about the wedding, we're in the process of relocating while we both are looking for jobs because we both recently graduated from a grad program. Normally, my game is on point but these past 7 months have been a whirl wind of emotions with her wilding out (getting irrational, angry, snapping at me....) Of course, I check her but we can't never seem to get on a smooth course. Let me know, is this temporary because everything we're going through or do I need to implement some stronger game to make her sane and rational. Beside this stint in our relationship, everything has been cool over the years. Can someone please, give me some insight and a list of rules to follow to keep my game tighter in situations like these.....Thanks

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Number one tip: Even though you're married, never stop being boyfriend and girlfriend.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

its GOOD to see a question like this on the forums, because mostly its poor topics these days posted by 17/18 year olds, which belong in the college forums.

I CANNOT offer advice myself because I've not had to go through the marriage stage. All I know is that the self improvement & game so to speak never stops with marriage, and that it offers NO extra security in the relationship - hence the thing invented called DIVORCE.

 

[Paradox]

Make sure she doesn't have a real problem like Bi-polar disorder. She sounds like she is BPD. she may or may not be aware that she is BPD.

There is a whole section about LTR's in the DJ Bible

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

How old are you? How old is she?

 

[DonGorgon]

I have a suggestion... don't get married.

Exactly... you are her anchor marriage ... you will support her until her career takes of then she will loose the passion for you etc. meet someone etc.. you know the drill... DONT DO IT!

 

[Rhoto]

Women enter a marriage with no risk. Worst case - you get divorced with a couple of kids, and she gets paid at the end.

I vote NO.

 

[Effington]

I don't think this thread was intended to be a forum for voicing your opinion on marriage.

While I don't have any experience with marriage, my suggestion would be to use the same techniques as any other time. Hang out with your single buddies. It's very healthy to have separate lives and friends.

 

[IsiMan84]

It may not have been the initial question but our personal opinions would still come into play regarding our answers. If somebody asked you "how can I increase my chances at winning Russian Roulette" your immediate answer would be along the lines of "by not playing Russian Roulette." How would this be any different?

If he's already having issues with her, that's like throwing a few more bullets in the gun. Marriage is already an uphill battle for any male, and depending on his age there's either a 50% chance or an 80% chance it won't work out. The average person would be wary about gambling away $100 if the chances of winning were only 20-50%. With marriage you're talking about half the stuff you own. And it hurts even more when the person turns out to be someone they previously were not, or they always were that way but waited until marriage to bring that side out.

Off the soapbox. From my honest perspective though, if you want to keep your game in tip-top shape I would suggest holding out on marrying her as long as humanly possible. But I feel it may already be too late. To directly answer your question, having game would only get you so far, especially if she changes her personal priorities after getting married.

 

[dannyegg4575]

players187, you are in a site full of guys who advise you to spin plates, dump that wh0re, etc... Best advice is your own advice.

marriage is a union between two ppl mature enough to take it to the next stage. what you're going through is understandable. You don't get into a marriage "hoping" that the other person will carry the weight. you get into a marriage knowing that you two are right for each other and that there is NO STRESS.

if you love her as you say you do, you'd understand what she's going through. there is no need to be playing games. Simply be by her side and be understanding. Any excess stress you place onto the relationship will further cause conflicts in the relationship now and in the future.

the term marriage is so overblown it sickens me. all you're really doing when you're married is to give her your exclusivity. meaning that you won't be seeing anyone else BUT her. After a long day's work, you just want to hang out with her. that's all. And this is for the rest of your lives together.

My question for you is, are you the right man to do that? CAN you do that?

And if your answers yes, then you don't need any advice; go for it. And treat her as your gf until the day you die.

But if you're not ready, then do not rush into marriage hoping things will be better. You'll end up disappointed, hurt and broke.