"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I met this girl I really liked. We get along pretty good (I thought), and have interesting conversations.

I'm way new to DJing. But anyways, she asked me what I meant by something, and I said "Does it matter?"

She got all mad and said I always made smartass remarks. So now she's pissed I guess.

Worst mixed signals I'v ever had.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I met this girl I really liked. We get along pretty good (I thought), and have interesting conversations.

I'm way new to DJing. But anyways, she asked me what I meant by something, and I said "Does it matter?"

She got all mad and said I always made smartass remarks. So now she's pissed I guess.

Worst mixed signals I'v ever had.




Instead of using "smartass remarks," why not use something ****y/funny?

EXAMPLE:

Girl: What did you mean when you said that me tripping on my own foot is bad?
Guy: Well, I'm only saying that your clumsiness is ruining the chemistry between us. So much for getting married (with a big fat grin.)

That's what I would say, and guys, if u have any suggestions or want to correct me, feel free.
 

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What exactly did you tell her for her to ask you that?
 

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j8snx1, i dont want to sound like a smarta*** but how long did it take u to think that up. i end up in situations frequently where C+F would be not only appropriate, but great and its difficult pulling it off, maybe i jus need more practice.

au revoir
 

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Yeah I gotta agree, there are plenty of times where it seems that there's no appropriate time to pull out a C&F, but what I usually do is I just try anyway you know? You're better off knowing that you gave the C&F a shot at awkward times(and most, if not all, of the time it can work!) than regretting over not making any attempts.

And the whole "theres no chemistry between us" reply, I picked it up from a sosuave article, and it shouldnt take too long to think that (or something like it) up if you're trying to use neg-hits.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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