"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Need some help with her

Peter Pantsless

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I have this baby-faced blonde in one of my classes (Jen), a real doll-face. I try talking to her after class but i go one way and she goes the other. It only works if we leave class at the same time, and im not going to run after her. I catch her playing with the left side of her hair sometimes in class, the side i sit on. Last week i went to dinner and saw her sitting by herself, so i went over and asked if she was alone, she said she was waiting for her roommate, so i then asked if i could sit down, she said yes. I talked with her a bit about class and that jazz b4 her roommie came. The conversation was nice, the girl i like asked me questions when the other came over, she didnt ignore me. But maybe im over thinking, but i was sitting to the right of her, and she was playing with the right side of her hair, my side. It went well, poked fun of her a bit, made her laugh too. My problem is i never see her. I never see her on campus or on the weekends. My gut feeling is she likes me. In fact, i caught her looking at me and playing with her hair, and when i glanced over and made eye contact she quickly looked away.

I genuinly like this girl, but my problem is, if i never see her, how can i talk to her. After class just doesnt cut it.
Any advice would be appreciated.

~JD~
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I guess if you want her you'll have to just pursue her. You just can't let her go her own way then one day expect her to follow you. You have to follow her.
 

mobius

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Originally posted by dementia
This is a relaly dumb question.

Youve already established some rapport. Whats wrong with just walking after her?? or calling out to her??

say some **** like "I should have got your number and/or email the other day, but i forgot. What is it?"

Thats all

THen continue on the process. Calls, date, 2nd date, fvck, marriage, matching towels, dog, cat, kids, family reunions

blah blah
LOL. Yeah I think he already has a pretty firm base to build upon, he just needs to apply himself and go for it.
 

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Yup! Crash and burn, don't just sit there and spontaneously combust.

Whatever thoughts you have about how dumb and stupid you're gonna look if you were to chase her to talk to her is nothing compared to how dumb and stupid you're gonna look if you were to be sitting by yourself waiting for her to magically appear in front of you in a position that is perfect for you to approach her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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