Need some help from those who have had multiple GF's before.

[venser]

So im in this pickle. there are two chicks.

first, call her A. shes honestly a HB9 or HB10. Shes a year older and went to the same HS as me. (im a frosh in college now, shes a soph). Anyways i still remember talking about her as if she was a goddess with my friends back in my frosh/soph year of HS. Now that shes acutally (almost easily) within reach, its mindblowing.

Second girl B, is HB7 or 8. Shes the same age as I am and while she isnt as smoking hot we just seem to be able to click pretty well. Never a dry moment, convoes are always good.

Both of them are interested in me, A has called me a few times to hang out, (denied her once, went mini golfing this other time). B is just giving me "the look" in class (lol) and she seems to have genuine interest when we talk (which is pretty much everyday in class) .

Anyways, i can't pick one because honestly, i want them both.

From those who have either had this situation or have had 2 (or more!) girlfriends before, how easy is it to juggle them? and do you have any words of advice?

Anyone else with helpful advice is welcome to offer it as well.

 

[gherald]

this is the same exact situation im in...

ive had couple of gfs before but if you're interested in 2 HB studying at the same univ its a different situation..

well they're actually 3 studying in the same university...

what i did was just enjoy the company of both and get the one who first gave in..turns out she's kinda psycho for me (i just don't like her acting so tough and trying to boss me around) so i tell her outright that we need time to assess our feelings and broke her after a couple of days...

and went to the other girl,turns out she had already got the news so we became friends with benefit...making out but no sex...she's kinda psycho too...

the 1st HB still likes me and i hanging her for the moment...

BTW they're just 16 years old so maybe thats how they think...

you can't really have both at the same time dude...

i advice you to keep your game tight...and hang the girl who can wait for you...

 

[ROXTAR]

Dating Multiple Women

You should go out on casual dates with both of them. This way you can be sure which one you are more compatible with. If they both know each other, just make it seem like it's a casual "hanging out" with each of them. On your dates, be playful and use a lot of kino. Create sexual tension, but be subtle about it. As you spend more time with them, you will get a good feel as to which one is more responsive and willing to become more with you. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, don't just go for whichever one is the hotter of the two. If you are wanting to stay single and leave your options open, then it is possible to keep both as casual dates and/or "friends-with-benefits". Just be clear and upfront with what you really want, with yourself and with each of them.

 

[Sandow]

Love it! If i had a nickel for every time I've been in this situation...

Ok, here is what you do. First off, if your not familiar with plate theory by Mr. Tomassi, I highly recommend reading it. It's somewhere on this board. But I'll just summarize some points.

First, don't choose! Thats right, you date both of them until one fizzles out. Trust me, I've been in this situation so many times, chances are one will just fade out. If you choose, then you have ONE-itis, and girls can sense this stuff. She'll realize you don't have any options and lose interest in you. Also, if you choose one, and she dumps ur arse, then ur fcked.

In fact add another girl to the equation! Girls love guys with options, it's social proof at its greatest! Now they're going to work that much harder to win the prize I love jealousy. I used to be scared of telling girls of other girls that I'm also seeing in fear of rejection. But guess what? It does the exact opposite! Love it.

In rare instances, if a girl doesn't wanto to get involves, who cares cause you have all these other girls. Its like survival of the fittest....may the girl who wants me the most show it and deserve me. And of course, that is what you want, the girl who is most into you. It's a win-win situation.

So do not choose! Spin your plates until you end up with that lucky babe.

 

[venser]

great advice. i do think im going to do what you are all suggesting. causually go out with both of them and see which one works out better.

question: on causual dates, am i allowed to go for the kiss/make out? go further than that? Or will they automatically assume it means we're now "together".

 

[Microfiltered]

Always escalate dude. If she doesn’t dig one of your moves, just take a step back and then continue to escalate. Don’t worry about what she’s thinking regarding being together and stuff. It’s too early. I think most guys wouldn’t even call a girl a gf until they’re fvcking. But in the end, it’s all up to you and where your morals lie.

 

[belividere]

If I read that right you dont really have two gfs yet you have two girls that you wanna date. You are in the first year of what is hopefully going to be 4 good years of chasing hot young tail.

Good convoes are pointless at this stage in your life. Unless you are looking for an LTR (which I dont think any 18 yr old on a campus should be doing) you should try to tag girl A as soon as you can. She will move on quickly if you dont and then you'll be the guy with the hot friend. To be honest she is more likely the one who if you dont capitalize on soon will not have sex with you.

Girl b will always be around if you dont throw girl a in her face. If not you'll probably find another girl b again in a couple of weeks. You already have a good rapport with her so back off her for a little bit and pursue girl a. This will keep you out of becoming just friends with girl b and give you time to see if maybe the better looking one wouldn't click with you just as well.

 

[venser]

hmm belividere. you really have changed my point of view. while im not exactly looking for a LTR, i am not that interested in random hook ups. because honestly i came off a relationship something like 2 years ago, and ive just been hooking up since the then.

the real point that you drive home is that girl A is very likely to move on soon and while i dont htink i could date her, (since shses so friggin intimidating) i do think i should attempt to hit that soon. its something i might regreat forever. thanks for knocking some sense into me.

hit a before continuing b.