Need some help breaking up

[longlifexs]

As you might have understood from reading the title..I dediced to break up with my current girlfriend. She was the first gf I had..first that I kissed..first that I fvcked..hell, even the first one I really loved. But yeah, she did some bad stuff and I decided not to take it anymore. Plus she fell in love with some fvckhead on a camp she's at..she claims she believes she will get over it in a short while, but in no way am I gonna just sit and wait for that to happen.

Anyway, one thing that is still in my head now is..do I really want to let her go, cut off all contact forever..or just make her understand she fvcked up, wait for her to crawl back begging me to love her again and accept her once she learns her lesson?

The first solution would be very satisfying, when I take my current mood into account (I'm p!ssed+depressed beyond measure). But at the same time, I know I still love her..and that if on sunday she came back from the camp and was exactly the way she was before, I'd gladly continue the relationship.

I guess I don't really know what I'm expecting when I'm posting this..perhaps I hope for a hundred people coming and saying that one of the versions is totally out of question..which would make it easier for me to decide. Anyway I really want to get over this period with her, so:

Any help or comments appreciated.

 

[decades]

time to move on. you're only 17 and she wasn't going to be "forever" anyway. this is actually good because it allows you to move on without guilt because she is the one who forced your hand. Accept it and just get the support you need to make it through this without being an AFC who hangs on and or takes her back. You did the right thing.

 

[longlifexs]

Thanks mate..I guess that's exactly what I needed to hear.

Until now, I still had the thoughts in my head like "if she is ok again on sunday, I will give her another chance" and stuff.. Now I am 100% commited.

She's coming back at 1 pm on sunday, so I guess I will meet her at about 3 and set up a meeting with some friend for 4 so I don't spend more time then necessary with her and have someone to talk to afterwards..

 

[decades]

yeah she gave you an out. Now you can use the skills you are learning here to meet more chicks. next time don't settle on one GF. Instead just have fun with many different ones. You can settle down later. Be careful though because I have a feeling that on Sunday you are going to get a sob story and plenty of tears telling you how sorry she is and that she made a mistake. Don't fall for it.

 

[longlifexs]

I won't. If I have any doubts about my resolve, before I meet her I will just go through the text messages she sent me yesterday and today and that made me feel like sh!t. That will most definitely get me into the correct mood..

And yes, I will do my best to transfer the theoretical knowledge I have gained from this site to the field. So far I got a completely new mindset, lots of confidence, started noticing girls on the street looking at me, having loads of eye contact and stuff..within the next week, I definitely need to start with some approaching. I will probably also start a journal here once I get to do something

Thanks for all the help.

 

[Zaraza]

Remember that you should always be more important to yourself than someone else is to you. People come and go, girls come and go, but you always stay with yourself.

 

[KontrollerX]

Do exactly what persistant exaction said.

Also follow Rollo Tomassi's rule and that is basically don't even consider getting into a serious relationship until you are 25-28.

Chicks as young as you are now like PE already said will not last forever.

They are too young and about to enter their party years, they want a variety of c0ck.

You do the opposite and the same thing by going after a variety of poon.

Stop falling in love with these young ho's and just focus on hooking up and hooking up a lot.

Use those young hormones and your young guy energy for all its worth.

Don't waste all of your energy on love that won't last especially at your age.

So yeah ditch this chick and don't look back or let her into your life ever again.

You feel too strongly for her which you shouldn't considering she rode some other guy's c0ck and you wouldn't be able to cut off your emotions and just use her for sex so move on to greener pastures and no falling in love with any chick until you are mid twenties and the girl has proven her loyalty and love for you for a long period of time not just through her words but through her actions.

Do a search here and read the poster Fela Kuti's posts.

You don't want to ever end up in a relationship like that guy had that all of us told him repeatedly to get out of but he never would.

If you take this chick back at any point you'll just go through a repeated cycle of time wasting, energy wasting, drama and heartbreak.

We older guys have all been there.

Learn from our mistakes and don't do this.

Do what we should of done at your age which is hooked up with all the hotties we could and avoided the relationship immaturity trap.

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

...once she learns her lesson...

She won't learn her "lesson". Get that out of your head. Do what you know you need to do. Good luck. And stay strong. We've all been there so come here for support. Don't go trying to talk to her after the deed is done. It'll only prolong the pain. Too many of us have made that mistake before and it isn't worth it.