Questions are good at first, but only general questions such as the college she is going to, type of job she has, (her name.. if you need it... heh).
Once you cover the basis, she will most likely respond asking you about your 'general info'. If not, offer it sparingly.
If she seems uninterested, tell her out right "You seem like a nice person, but you aren't really my type." Shake her hang or hug her and leave.
If she IS interested, which most girls will be, tell her your job first, and then tell her about your college or school and your involvement.
During this, be sure to NOT comment on the "WHYs" of anything unless she asks. This creates a slightly mystery. Not much, but some. When (if) she does ask, give her a kind of 'smirk' as to put off the look of [why are you asking me this... oh.. you like me.. heh heh.].
Always talk about feelings. Don't just say "I goto Blah blah college". The word "because" will become your friend. Women love trying to interpret things, and giving them vague reasons will make them think about it, and in turn, think about YOU.
A simple "I like this college because of the great environment" would suffice quite nicely. It thwaps her brain a bit and makes her think:
[he likes it... hmm.. must be a nice place.. a great place to be eh? what makes it great? why is the environment so good? Is his definition of environment the same as mine? Give me more info!!]
Be ready to talk about things that string down from the original statement. {Ex: I like college.} Think about what makes you like the college, why you go, what makes it special, what type of people are there, activities you do there... but do not tell her unless she asks!!!!
When she is talking about herself, she will (99% of the time) give you a little more information than what you asked. If you ask what college she went to, pay attention to everything she says EXCEPT what college she goes to. She is testing you to see if you are a listener. She may say something like
1)"I like the college I go to, I can be away from my family" or
2)"Its a crappy college, I'd rather be out doing blah blah blah" or
3)"I go to BLAH BLAH, its a small but decent place."
1) Being away from family- = Be VERY careful when asking about her family, doing so before she 'invites' you into her personal life will result in the "OMGWTF He’s a stalker!" attitude.
Comment on that fact of her independence. Something such as "Well since you're away from your family, you can be as independent as you want to be!"
2)I like doing other things besides college. -= She likes having fun!! Yes! Remember, always use her words when talking back. (well, not always, but most of the time). Say something like, "Well, if you prove you're a fun enough person, I'll let you come out with me some night." or "Well at least you know how to have fun, a lot of people don't. "
3) Small but decent. -= Tell her that it could be smaller, or ask why what makes that college so decent.
Rule: When you ask her a question, notice the answer she gives you. Comment on it with a STATEMENT before you ask more questions. Notice the feelings she talks about. Respond. For bonus points, comment and respond to anything she says that you did not provoke in the question.
Rule: When you give her a statement, just give it. If she doesn't respond, just look at her, tilt your head, and wait for a response. (Most guys will try to say something to 'not sound stupid'. Doing this puts HER in the spotlight and says to her "YOU say something, I'm testing you here, girl!") If she doesn't respond, JUST STARE.
If she responds, treat it like another response from a question. Analyze and comment.
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If she begins to seem interested, good! If not, end it.
Rule: Questions are used in only few places:
1) To start the FIRST conversation you EVER have with her, and only to get to know her to start with.
2) As a backdoor if you really can't think of anything to say.
Rule:
Questions are good early, and bad later.
Comments are decent early, but great later.
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If all else fails, talk to a girl that is your friend. Someone you can talk to. Just ask her to help you develop your conversational and listening skills. This is BY far THE best way to do it. Actually talking with someone who is just helping you.
You can do it!