Need Help with LDR

[Taun_Juan]

Well i met this girl out of state when i was on a business trip about 2 months ago. Everything went well and we started a LTR but she lives in a different state as me.

We talk almost everyday for atleast 45 mins, and i have plans to go live with her in a couple months. She always calls me and tells me how much she misses me ect. And says the sound of my voice turns her on and such.

But for the past few weeks it seems like i ran out of things to talk to her about. Its really hard because i basically ask her how her day was and how mine was and then i kinda go blank after that. I have to script out some made out stories sometimes just to make the conversation interesting and i don't want it to be like that.

This has been my first realationship and i want it to work out for us. But im never a busy person and never really have any stories to tell. I kinda been like this my whole life quit-guy but trying to overcome that quit-guy image. So help me out guys what can i do to keep the conversations flowing smoothly. All help would be great.

 

[darth yoda]

Are you serious?!?

So many red flags!

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-i met this girl out of state when i was on a business trip about 2 months ago.

-she lives in a different state as me.

-We talk almost everyday for atleast 45 mins

-i have plans to go live with her in a couple months

-I have to script out some made out stories sometimes just to make the conversation interesting

-This has been my first realationship
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Those were just a few things that caught my attention. Wow. The AFC side of the force is strong with this one.

 

[Taun_Juan]

Yup we all have to start from somewhere right. I always been a shy person anyway, but she really doesn't seem to care. She wants me to go live out there with her. There is no doubt in my mind she doesn't want me. But i feel later on the the realationship its gonna hurt me by not having good communication skill. So yea i need some pointers how to keep a convo flowin.

 

[spider_007]

instead of focusing on the things tha happened, trying being playfull. Try teasing her a bit. If you don't have a sence of humor, try sarcasam..... And quit talking to her so much for so long......Ofcorse you are gona run out of things to say...... Be little more miserious, playfull..... tell her a rediculus storry (funny) and at the end when she says "really" just say naaa, I made it up. I thought the part about aliens would surely give it away....

 

[HeartlessBtch]

:nono: NO ! NO! AND NO! :nono:
I can't help but agree with the Red flags theory. This is insane. think about this, you talk to her 45 minutes on the phone everyday... how do you even know you are compatible enough to even live together. Do you know her bad habits? or does she yours? 45 minutes over the phone on a daily basis is never enough. let me tell you something, this is a complete misconception of people when they assume they know someone because they have dated for a while and talk everyday. GENTLEMEN you won't even get to know the person completly if you live with them for years! I was in a LTR for four years and I can tell you that now I have realized I did not know anything about him. I have been with my b.f for 8 months and you can say we have been "living together" for about 4 months and let me tell you it is a complete different experience. DO NOT throw yourself into this if you are not positive you two are 100% compatible and keep in mind that if you have ran out of things to say that means that you two don't know each other well...

 

[Taun_Juan]

Yea the only thing that makes me not want to live out with her in the conversation thing. But i have nothing out her in the state im living so im not giving up much ya know? So its just a risk factor. I did stay with her for about a week when i was on my business trip. She was sad to have me leave and so was i. But carrying a conversation is something that has haunted me since i was a child. That alone has deprived me of being in a relationship, i am 24 and this is my first relationship.

I feel since someone has over-seen the one flaw i have then she must be worthy of being mine. Just need to find a way to keep the conversations flowing.

 

[HeartlessBtch]

Originally posted by Taun_Juan
Yea the only thing that makes me not want to live out with her in the conversation thing. But i have nothing out her in the state im living so im not giving up much ya know? So its just a risk factor. I did stay with her for about a week when i was on my business trip. She was sad to have me leave and so was i. But carrying a conversation is something that has haunted me since i was a child. That alone has deprived me of being in a relationship, i am 24 and this is my first relationship.

I feel since someone has over-seen the one flaw i have then she must be worthy of being mine. Just need to find a way to keep the conversations flowing.

 

[everywomanshero]

LDR

First, I would only consider a LDR to get some action while pursuing someone closer. Having a serious, LDR is the worst idea I've ever heard of. It will be expensive, frustrating, and tiring. Use LDR as a mean to get some and keep on the line as long as possible, but once it gets to be too much hassle, let it go. Often, you can go directly from talking on the phone to staying at her house with a LD voyage. Ahh, this puts you in the pink zone so easily.

There are cases were moving might be justified. If you want maximum results, then you have to live in a large metropolitan area. There is simply more options and chances. If the move would upgrade other areas of your life, and you can become established on her dime.... I'd say that doesn't sound so bad. However, I would not move in under the condition that I were going to permanentely stay as a live-in partner. I'd be looking to get a job and my own apartment ASAP. Plenty of time for this wife crap when we're too old to get it up