"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Need help with foreign student in my math class

bstunt10190

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Hello don juan/s

its been a while since i last visited this site and much has changed in my life.

I'm sorry if this is a little bit long but I feel the need to completely explain my situation so that I and you guys can understand what is going on and how to help.

I am repeating my freshman year at a community college where foreign students probably make of the majority of the student body.

in my math class there is this beautiful venezuelan girl who i am friends with. how? i saw her in orientation and made a promise to myself i would get to know her. my math class only meets once a week every friday so i dont get a lot of time to work on this chick.

progress so far:

we text,
she's actually hooked me up with a guy she knows to get my alcohol (im 19)
she's talked about her family with me
we've hung out in the library to do homework, but ended up talking

problem: a couple weekends ago there was a rager going that weekend and I txted her asking what she was doing and invited her to come along. she said no she couldnt because her aunt is strict blah blah blah (she lives in the usa with her aunt)

after getting a vibe from her that she...idk wasnt feeling me i got off all communication. she usually come to class late, she doesnt like going to math class. actually last class she skipped and i was tempted to txt her asking her why she wasnt in class. so a couple hours later she txts telling me that she missed class (obviously) and that shes worried about what she missed. i held off txting her back and made her wait, then proceeded to txt short one word answers.

today in class she came an hr later and i complete ignored her, not intentionally but we usually sit together but there were no seat around me for her to sit next to me, i didnt txt her when she came in nor did i turn around to look at her or talk to her.

after class we really didnt talk much and just walked out of the room and agreed we'd meet up tomorrow for extra help at 1130.

question:

how do I proceed from here? what can I correct? any other thoughts?

any and all advice is appreciated, i respect this place as i have recieved good advice in the past.

-d
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Lozenga

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bstunt10190 said:
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how do I proceed from here? what can I correct? any other thoughts?
I dont see much reciprocation on the part of this bird. I'd say stick a fork in it (for now), and game some other chicks, give this one a chance to scratch her head at how she missed your awesomeness.
 

bstunt10190

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wise words my friend, actually i hang out with two girls in that class, the spanish chick and this swedish chick, so i'll start talking with the latter
 

bstunt10190

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although i am prepared to put this chick on hold, im wondering if theres anyone who has advice on pursuing her.
 
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