Hi,
I would like to ask for help. I have a childhood abandonment incident which gave me a trauma. This resulted in me fearing relationships so much that I am not able to get a girlfriend,I have low self esteem and is seen as being a nice guy by women. Even if the woman likes me so much, I keep on sabotaging my success by unconsciously avoiding being in a relationship with her. Im also feeling a strong neediness whenever a relationship is near to form.
I read "No more Mr. Nice guy" and found out about abandonment issues in men. Im pretty sure that this is the cause as I was abandoned by my parents and left to my grandparents when I was 4-5 years old. I can remember crying so hard and getting a little depressed when one day my parents visited me and then left me again as they would need to go back to the other city to work. Right now I can understand that they are not able to baby sit me at that time and so they would have to leave me to my grandparents. However, the childhood trauma is still there.
I researched a lot about this, found out that my parents really have no parenting skils, I dont blame them. I have also tried a lot of therapies and a lot more products (books , CDs,self help, Sedona Method, EFT, Healing Codes, Self Hypnosis CDs, Lefkoe Method, subliminals to name a few), and self help seminars, in the past but none really helped me tremendously and none was able to cure it. I am already desperate and frustrated with my situation as I have spent a lot of money and time already with no real results. A lot of wonderful relationships with women were wasted and this just cant continue.
I asked a spiritual healer and she told me that the trauma is already in the astral, not much sure what that means.
So i am asking you guys for suggestions. It seems that this is hard to fix but I am still looking and hoping maybe ill get this fix one day.
Strikr
I would like to ask for help. I have a childhood abandonment incident which gave me a trauma. This resulted in me fearing relationships so much that I am not able to get a girlfriend,I have low self esteem and is seen as being a nice guy by women. Even if the woman likes me so much, I keep on sabotaging my success by unconsciously avoiding being in a relationship with her. Im also feeling a strong neediness whenever a relationship is near to form.
I read "No more Mr. Nice guy" and found out about abandonment issues in men. Im pretty sure that this is the cause as I was abandoned by my parents and left to my grandparents when I was 4-5 years old. I can remember crying so hard and getting a little depressed when one day my parents visited me and then left me again as they would need to go back to the other city to work. Right now I can understand that they are not able to baby sit me at that time and so they would have to leave me to my grandparents. However, the childhood trauma is still there.
I researched a lot about this, found out that my parents really have no parenting skils, I dont blame them. I have also tried a lot of therapies and a lot more products (books , CDs,self help, Sedona Method, EFT, Healing Codes, Self Hypnosis CDs, Lefkoe Method, subliminals to name a few), and self help seminars, in the past but none really helped me tremendously and none was able to cure it. I am already desperate and frustrated with my situation as I have spent a lot of money and time already with no real results. A lot of wonderful relationships with women were wasted and this just cant continue.
I asked a spiritual healer and she told me that the trauma is already in the astral, not much sure what that means.
So i am asking you guys for suggestions. It seems that this is hard to fix but I am still looking and hoping maybe ill get this fix one day.
Strikr
