"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Thedss

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So.. another tough story. I met this girl about 10 days ago randomly. She was into me at first (interested texts, etc) .. we went on a date for dinner and walking around. it was great. lots of chemistry. we were holding hands and she kissed me on the lips at the end of it. The day after next i texted to set up date 2. She responded with sad faces and said she had just been fired from her job ( she explained on the first date that she loved it). She came to meet me anyway. She was crying at times and was sad, but she leaned on me and I was trying to support her. I got her resume and sent it to a friend who might help her out.

The next day she texted me, "i feel better now lets go for the movie:)". I said, alright sure. We went to the movie and got ice cream. good chemistry still. Holding throughout the night. held my hand in the movie for most of it. At the end of the night she went for the cheek and then i went for lips after. It was late (about midnight) and i asked her if she wanted to come home with me because it was late and she lived far away and i lived close by. She declined for whatever reason and went home. Since then, her texts have been a bit shorter and I have sensed some distancing from her.... We are supposed to go on another date soon, but she doesn't seem as excited. Maybe she is more comfortable with me now and doesn't feel the need to go into detail in texts? I dont know what happened. I have developed some feelings for this girl, and I want her to be mine. How do I go about this? One of my friends said the girl is just prude. I dont know.

As an example.. after the first date she texted me the next day saying how is your day going. Haven't had her initiate convo since.


ANy help
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Weezzyy

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You want to make her yours just after 10 days? you're being to easy for her. Try being a challenge, maybe it will spice things up on her end.
 

Thedss

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Well, dont have a lot of time. only in town for the summer.
 

plate's_empty

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sounds like you just got friend zoned.

Continue to be a shoulder to cry on and helping her find a job and that's all you're ever going to be. You are now an orbiter that she will have around all summer to use and abuse.

Weezy's advice was on point, you should take it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Greasy Pig

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Buyer's remorse. Chicks flake all the time.
You have to continually analyse your game and learn how to whip these chicks into a frenzy of sexual desire.
I'd say she's just not feeling it after two dates and is trying to work out a way to let you down easy.
I'd pull back a bit and see if she responds.
 

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How can you say she's just not feeling it when she was showing all of those signs an everything was so good chemistry wise? I told her to let me know when he figures out what she wants to do. Until then I'm not going to text or call her. It's just sad because I thought we were beyond these games.
 

Thedss

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plate's_empty said:
sounds like you just got friend zoned.

Continue to be a shoulder to cry on and helping her find a job and that's all you're ever going to be. You are now an orbiter that she will have around all summer to use and abuse.

Weezy's advice was on point, you should take it.
Didn't think help get her a job would be friend zoned. Isn't it alpha because you are taking control and she is dependent on you?
 
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