"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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amethyst

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Hey Steve, first of all I think you are awesome, I really enjoyed this thread, I like the whole passive demeanour you have going on.

But anyway, the thing is chief you have to detach yourself from the situation to enjoy picking up women. You see from what I read you seem like a genuine nice guy, but also as you said you seem to be lacking confidence thus you are taking the rejections personally. I also I believe that even though you are an incredible nice guy you have a lot of pent up rage inside.

I think that what you need is to first build yourself internally and allow your past wounds to heal. From personal experience (I was also a very nice guy and had a maelstrom of rage inside) I found that doing martial arts reduced my anger and made me felt more assertive, I found I felt the same when I used to the gym regularly. I guess it made me feel secure as I was part of something, and I found that the people around me treated me really well. This gave me such a confidence boost that it allowed me to relax enough to detach myself from the PU and just see it as a game.

I think that once you take back the reigns of your life, you will be a force to be reckoned with. Trust me when I say that once you get your confidence back and get rid of the anger inside, detaching yourself from the PU will come to you naturally, and you will not commit any trivialities because it will not be personal.

I really mean it when I say you are awesome, I see a lot of potential in you.

Love

Amethyst

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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