Need expert opinion of this situation with a girl...

[collegeEJ]

Alright I started talking to this girl I knew from school, went to eat breakfast, texted, but she dropped the class and basically stopped talking to her.

Towards the end of the semester I got her number again after we talked for a long time in the library.

I called her and we began talking and texting quite a bit, while she was back home for a bit. She even began calling me boo. haha

Well, she got back a few days ago and agreed to come hang out and watch movies her first night back (her friends ended up getting mad at her for not chilling with them, but that's a different story). She even came to my work and talked to me for a bit before. We just cuddled while watching a movie and I didn't kiss her, because it didn't feel right and I didn't want to force anything.

She texted me this morning telling me her class was cancelled. I told her to come over, but she didn't because she said she looked grungy or whatever.

Well, we had class today and her friend was in there,so we didn't talk much and she didn't say anything walking out of class, but I stopped to talk to someone.

I don't know, it seems since two nights ago when she came over, she hasn't really initiated hanging out again.

So I texted her tonight to see if she was gonna go to the gym with me because she originally said she would (the other night when she came over), but told me she was drinking with her friends. I texted back a simple "k" and haven't heard from her since.

What do you guys make of this situation???

 

[Infamous_Wolf]

Alright I started talking to this girl I knew from school, went to eat breakfast, texted, but she dropped the class and basically stopped talking to her.

Towards the end of the semester I got her number again after we talked for a long time in the library.

First thing I notice is how you got her number the second time. You should really take as short a time as possible to get her number. When you lingered there and talked for a long time, the girl inteprets this as neediness. She may not think "OMG he is so needy", but she will get a "feeling" that she doesn't want to date you. Or she's just an attention wh0re. whichever, you showed her you were a submissive male by simply lingering there before you got her number.

I called her and we began talking and texting quite a bit, while she was back home for a bit. She even began calling me boo. haha

Once again, the talking and texting quite a bit sends a needy vibe. Like you don't have anything else to do but talk to her all the time.

Well, she got back a few days ago and agreed to come hang out and watch movies her first night back (her friends ended up getting mad at her for not chilling with them, but that's a different story). She even came to my work and talked to me for a bit before. We just cuddled while watching a movie and I didn't kiss her, because it didn't feel right and I didn't want to force anything.

Because of the initial feeling that she got from you, she never showed any sexual interest in you. Sure she called you Boo, I bet that made you feel good. But words don't mean a thing. actions are what tell you the truth when it comes to women. You can tell when a woman likes you if you look at her body language. If she's very giggly around you, if she's giving you playful taps on the shoulder because of your smarta$$ remarks. But you did the wrong thing from the beginning and followed through to your actions on the couch.. She didn't feel attraction for you, and your needy subconscious picked up on that and told you "it just didn't feel right" Only monogamous long term couples just cuddle on the couch and watch a movie. and the fact that you didn't make a move at all in this crucial situation, she nixed you from her list of potential males. that night.

She texted me this morning telling me her class was cancelled. I told her to come over, but she didn't because she said she looked grungy or whatever.

An excuse made up because she didn't want to hang out with you. Women do this all the time, especially to the needy guys, because they feel bad about hurting their feelings.

Well, we had class today and her friend was in there,so we didn't talk much and she didn't say anything walking out of class, but I stopped to talk to someone.

I don't know, it seems since two nights ago when she came over, she hasn't really initiated hanging out again


So I texted her tonight to see if she was gonna go to the gym with me because she originally said she would (the other night when she came over), but told me she was drinking with her friends. I texted back a simple "k" and haven't heard from her since.

What do you guys make of this situation???

When are starting to worry about her calling after 2 days, you are being much too needy. When you call and text alot, you project to her the feeling that you think you are her boyfriend, and it creeps her out.


Your situation is much bigger than this single woman. You need to totally restructure the way you interact with females. and you have to start from the inside out, not the other way around. If you try to cover up your shortcomings with slick techinques, you are only creating a thin shell over the needy, clingy core. If you restructure your core, your outside will reflectthat in your appearance, your mannerisms, your speech, how your carry yourself, your very presence.

I highly recommend you proceed to the don jaun bible located here

The Don Juan Bible

Start with chapter one, read through what the book contains, all the while taking a very hard look at yourself and what you want to accomplish. It won't be easy at first, but if you make a serious commitment to turning yourself around, and maintain your commitment, you will achieve a level that you never thought you could reach.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

what he said.

 

[Bible_Belt]

agreed to come hang out and watch movies

That means "make out" in chickspeak.


I didn't kiss her, because it didn't feel right and I didn't want to force anything.

That's the classic fvck-up, the one mistake that every guy will make at some point, the mistake that AFCs never stop making. In her mind, she asked you to kiss her, and you said no, told her that she was not attractive enough. She now thinks that you are not attracted to her. By not kissing her, you LJBF'd her.

Forget her completely for a few days, no contact. Then maybe you can spin the wheel again. Get her alone on a date that isn't really a date, touch her hair, look into her eyes, and kiss the girl. That's what she wants.

 

[DonGorgon]

She came over to F!!!! you dropped the ball its all up hill from here...

 

[n00bPimp]

Yeah dude you missed your chance, you're now a chump in her eyes. Game is over.