need advice

[mendigoazul]

hey guys i need your help. well today we where watching a movie in psych class and i was seating next to a chick i like. since we where watching the movie and everyone was quiet i wrote a not to the girl asking her if she was doing anything after class. she responded by saying that she was going to write a paper that was due today. so i asked if she wanted to hang out sometime. she replied by writing down her number and to call her when i was free. she also added that she was very busy. i dont know when to call her, would tomorrow be ok or is that too soon or what. and if i should talk to her for a long time or make the conversation short. please guys need some help any feed back would be thankful.

 

[mendigoazul]

well i have been trying to contact this girl but she does not answer her phone i have already called her 3 times! i have no idea where to go from here i have her in my psych class on monday so you guys have any advice on how i should deal with this?? please any help would be great.

 

[The Shocker]

stop calling goddamnit...why would you call 3 times in 1 day?

 

[Rock_Solid]

well it was 4 days, but i still would have only called twice. At this point she either is very busy (like she said) or she is just ignoring your calls. If she wants to talk she will call you, stop calling now.

 

[mendigoazul]

yeah i think its a good idea to stop. could you guys also help me out with how to act in class with her. i dont know to act like nothing happend give her the silent treatment or what?

 

[Rock_Solid]

Well, don't give her the silent treatment, be nice if she talks to you, but keep it short and don't initiate conversation. Don't let her catch you glancing at her (big imo) just act like you forgot about her.

(This works for me, it may not work for you, you can use it as a general guideline though)

 

[mendigoazul]

sweat man thanks! i dont know if you could tell but i m pretty much new to the game. i always kill it because i do stupid things. so i appreciate it.

 

[Rock_Solid]

Hey, no problem, what i told you to do is called a freeze-out. It works when the girl IS interested in you, if she isn't all it does is make her forget about you.

So you have to use your own judgment, if the freeze-out seems to be working (she tries to make conversation, you see her looking at you a lot out of the corner of your eye) then keep it up for a few days and then call her. If it isn't working just do it for the one day and then pretend like nothing happened, go back to normal to build up attraction.


This is only my advice though, this forum is great because multiple people can help you out, so hopefully some more DJ's will add there own input.