Ok guy's I met this woman on Match.com, she is a few years older than me, which is not a big deal unless she's just not attractive. Secondly she has had her own business for quite a long time, and she is used to a upper scale life style, and Lives in a very upscale neighborhood. During our phone conversation today ,to set up a date for tomorrow, we talked about many things including a lttle bit of my back ground. I make pretty decent money for the job that I have and have a pretty good life style. I was wondering if you guy's could offer any thoughts about do you think this would work out or do you think that I should not even bother with dating her? I will update after my date tomorrow. Any suggetions are welcome.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
First of all relationships aren't about money. They are about people liking one another.
Secondly, money can't buy you love. Anyone with any sense can tell you that.
She makes more that you. Well, for a 48yr old man that is true role reversal. You probably grew up with your father being the breadwinner and your mom being a housewife. In the 60's and 70's it wasn't necessary for 2 parents to work.
Anyway, we are in a different world now. Women can vote, get great jobs, be police officers, firefighters, doctors, lawyers.....and business owners.
I had a GF who earned almost twice as much money as me. Guess what? After I paid for our first date she wouldn't let me pay for anything else. Every time we went out she paid. The most she would let me do was to leave a tip.
She may live in an upscale neighborhood but I'll bet she gets lonely like everyone else....lol
Just treat her like you would any other date. Be your nice charming self.
Secondly, money can't buy you love. Anyone with any sense can tell you that.
She makes more that you. Well, for a 48yr old man that is true role reversal. You probably grew up with your father being the breadwinner and your mom being a housewife. In the 60's and 70's it wasn't necessary for 2 parents to work.
Anyway, we are in a different world now. Women can vote, get great jobs, be police officers, firefighters, doctors, lawyers.....and business owners.
I had a GF who earned almost twice as much money as me. Guess what? After I paid for our first date she wouldn't let me pay for anything else. Every time we went out she paid. The most she would let me do was to leave a tip.
She may live in an upscale neighborhood but I'll bet she gets lonely like everyone else....lol
Just treat her like you would any other date. Be your nice charming self.
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jophil28
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She is not a member of Match because she is looking to make more money.imaluvnit said:
She is on Match because her 'emotional account' is low on funds. She isn't "getting any".
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Way to go guy's, I always feel great after reading the replies and getting different view points, I already have a fair amount of confidence, but after being in this forum and building my knowledge base, DAMN I'm having a lot of fun. This whole Match.com thing has worked out great for me so far, it is almost becoming kind of a chore, I never really knew just how many women are available to me, not all of them super hot but I'm working my way down in the age group to get to what I want. Is it my Imagination that a lot of women in my age group try not to act desperate, but they very agreeable to almost anything, in my estimation they come off as a little desperate, even the one's that have had the boob jobs and tummy tucks and god knows what else. Well guy's gotta go, I will report back in after this date tonight. Thanks again.
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