"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Need advice on raising interest level

movistar

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Have been in a relationship for close to two years.
We have had ups downs but have had a reasonably stable relationship.
I'm noticing comments from her that are negative lately and I'm wondering if that is a sign of a doomed relationship or if things are able to be salvaged. We have both said that the relationship has some shortcomings but rather than look elsewhere I would like to try to get us to a good place. We discussed seeing other people and she has express a great interest to keep being intimate.
She tells me all the time that she wants to cuddle and just be in bed with me. So there is some interest still there.
Have you had any experience when the relationship gets to the point where you make negative comments? Is it reversible?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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goldengoose

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What kind of negative comments? Trying to raise interest level doesn't really work too well. When a girl decides she doesn't want to be with you, trying to raise interest won't work. It will lower even more when she feels negative. If you'e discussing seeing other people she doesn't see this relationship as very stable. Take her up on her offer, keep her around for sex and look for other women.
 

movistar

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Negative comments came while we were joking around but it bothers me that her mind goes there, we took a pic together and she said (jokingly) that I was looking faggy in the pic because of the face I made.

We had a convo the other day and she told me that she told one of her girlfriends one of her most favorite things about me is that I was always available to do something... always available... not good

I think there is some interest there still but she has changed. Still very sexual with me, still seems to like to please me in bed etc. her action just seem to be less doting. And she challenges what I say a lot.

I didn't realize I was making the mistake of texting too much. We text all the time during the day. She doesn't text as much these days, but we still get together and hang. It's almost like she wants to meet for sex, and sleep. We have been dating for nearly two years and I just thought it was OK at this point to be more or less available all the time. I was to the point that we assumed that we were doing something friday and saturday night and we usually hung out most of the week too.

Should I start being more mysterious? Stop texting? whats a good mode to be in. It's hard to be missing with her because she asks so many f@ck!ng questions!
 
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