Hello,
I'm a long time lurker but first time poster. I've gotten myself into a dilemma, and it may not seem like the worst scenario in the world but I would really appreciate advice from guys who have been around the block a few times over.
I've had a girlfriend for a little over a year now. Objectively, she's perfect: model body, ivy league intelligence, super classy, super freaky in bed and always horny, moral, not materialistic, extremely talented, and perfectly dedicated as a girlfriend. She repeatedly tells me she's my soulmate, I'm the perfect guy, gorgeous, talented, intelligent, good in bed, etc etc. Obviously I'm not an idiot with women and I've managed to bring her from zero interest 13 months ago to proposing to ME.
So where's the problem? Well, I'm bored. As crazy as it sounds, I'm sick of being catered to, constantly worshipped, and obeyed. The relationship lost its excitement - it goes back to the fact that we value what we can't have, and I've sickeningly got this girl hooked. BTW, I'm still in college and she is young as well.
My question is, should I take my chances and go back to being single and look for excitement with "hunting different women," or should I realize the value of what I have already (accept boredom) and not take the chance of being completely dissatisfied later for not sticking with "perfection"? I realize that all relationships lose their luster after a certain point. I need advice because firstly I have no experience with what the condition of the dating world is at this point, and secondly I want an outside opinion. Please don't confuse youth with immaturity - I take full responsibility for maintaining and finding happiness and I'm completely independant (meaning my perception of myself is independant of what women think of me or even if I have any interested), and that is precisely WHY i can walk away from this relationship and be happier than I ever have been.
Any advice?
I'm a long time lurker but first time poster. I've gotten myself into a dilemma, and it may not seem like the worst scenario in the world but I would really appreciate advice from guys who have been around the block a few times over.
I've had a girlfriend for a little over a year now. Objectively, she's perfect: model body, ivy league intelligence, super classy, super freaky in bed and always horny, moral, not materialistic, extremely talented, and perfectly dedicated as a girlfriend. She repeatedly tells me she's my soulmate, I'm the perfect guy, gorgeous, talented, intelligent, good in bed, etc etc. Obviously I'm not an idiot with women and I've managed to bring her from zero interest 13 months ago to proposing to ME.
So where's the problem? Well, I'm bored. As crazy as it sounds, I'm sick of being catered to, constantly worshipped, and obeyed. The relationship lost its excitement - it goes back to the fact that we value what we can't have, and I've sickeningly got this girl hooked. BTW, I'm still in college and she is young as well.
My question is, should I take my chances and go back to being single and look for excitement with "hunting different women," or should I realize the value of what I have already (accept boredom) and not take the chance of being completely dissatisfied later for not sticking with "perfection"? I realize that all relationships lose their luster after a certain point. I need advice because firstly I have no experience with what the condition of the dating world is at this point, and secondly I want an outside opinion. Please don't confuse youth with immaturity - I take full responsibility for maintaining and finding happiness and I'm completely independant (meaning my perception of myself is independant of what women think of me or even if I have any interested), and that is precisely WHY i can walk away from this relationship and be happier than I ever have been.
Any advice?