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Need adivice (Yes ive read through the bible)

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**Edited** Just want advice on this specific situation..

Since the other post didnt get many responses. Id just like opinions on this one.

Aiight i talked to that one girl today who invited me into her room when i showed up at her door.. even though her room mate said she was sleeping when i came. She wrote her number down with her name on a big index card... i talked to her on the phone and we basically got the talking and the topic of her boyfriend came up... and she said "well we aint been going out that long... so its not that serious". And then i said "oh, u dont got serious feelings for him?" and she said "well he's my homeboy" and i responded by saying "he's your homeboy? normally homeboy means a good friend... aint he suppose to be your intimate boyfriend :)" and she laughed. Then we went on talking and i told her i had a theory on men and women being friends... and she wanted to hear it. I basically told her that i dont believe in it because most of the time the guy likes the female, but the female just uses him as someone to talk to about her problems. Before ending the convo i told her that we should hang out sometime and she said "yeah, just give me a call babe". I said "aiight boo" then she said "bye sweety". So im thinking, since she knows that i dont do the whole friend thing with girls.. and that i still want to hang out... she knows what i want.. and the fact she's up for it, shouldnt this mean something?

Also, i did some good DJ'ing today.

Seen these 2 girls at their mail box for a prolonged amount of time and they were having trouble. So i offered some assistance, found out they didnt have boyfriends, and booked the one who i thought looked better. Was just talking to the other girl to be friendly.
 
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ok i read about the first 2 sentences.

if ur in college go to parties and meet girls. **** around in college and have a good time.

The reply is true though, girls find us as a temptation they have to get around when they have a bf. The temptation usually leads to you being attracted to her, if you've been playin the game.
 

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Bro just because she agreed to hang out with you after your whole "guy & girl friend" speech doesn't mean she still won't use you as an emotional tampon. That doesn't mean she will either, but you need to take a page outta her book and throw that shiat on her!! Notice how she's being very vague with how she feels about you?? She gives you hints of interest but not enough. You on the other hand pretty much made it VERY CLEAR that you want her. Who do you think is in the driver's seat of this situation???


Stealing girls away from their b/f's is pretty easy if the girl isn't happy with her current situation. In fact I'd say its easier than bagging a single woman for the simple fact that these women who supposedly "have b/f's" are out looking to hook up...:D



PIMP
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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oh she's been clear.... i just didnt go into details of the whole convo.. just wanted opinions on how i said i dont do the friend thing with girls.. and she wants to go out with me still.
 

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First of all, I didn't know people still used the word "boo." Actions speak louder than words. Kiss test/close, that will tell you all you need to know about what to do next. Get 'em player.
 

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Well, i live in DC........ u out in Cali... yall still say stuff like "Hella" and "Word" dont you? Aint heard that in a minute.
 

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You'll never hear me saying those words; in fact, I haven't heard anybody use 'em since 1994, to be exact.

Btw, you decided to focus on replying to that one comment, and not on the issue at hand. Stop trying to figure her out based on what she says, or how she responds to your words. I've gone through that kind of stuff. Kiss her next time you see her. If you do, she'll think you're HELLA COOL!
 

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well i didnt respond to that because it seems as though ur just trying to give sarcastic bad advice.. like ive seen some others members do just for kicks, or to be funny. But anyway. I dunno... i heard in SoCal they say "hella" all the damn time.
 

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No champ, no need to give sarcastic bad advice. Why even bother? How is telling you to cut through a girl's bull **** and attempt a kiss, in order to see if she's all talk, be sarcastic bad advice? You are HELLA wrong! Do what you want to, by the time you try to put all the pieces together, it might be too late to get out of the friend zone. That's why I've done in the past. I've had my answers by that simple technique.

If me telling you to just play it out, and hang out with her, and wait 'till everything falls into place, sounds like more legit advice, then go with that. Aight Boo?
 

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heh... i was just mistaken then... thanks for the advice. Ill think about it... depending on what kind of responses im getting from her when we finally go out.
 

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ok well, what should I say to her when calling since ive already said we should hang out and she said give her a call back. I dont have a car so i cant take her out to any place. We live in the same appt building though (im in college).
 

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Also im just curious to see an example of what some of u guys would say... Like if this girl knows i dont hang out as just friends, but still wants to hang with me. What would you say on the phone call u need to set up the actual date. Also, what would u do when with her? Use kino for a while then go for the kiss?
 

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um... im simply asking what you guys would say when on the phone cuz im curious for some better things to say to accomplish the main goal. Theres this other girl i got the # of, but when i call... what should i say if im interested in hooking up with her.
 

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i met this girl yesterday. Convo just was short, found out she didnt have a BF and she said i can give her a call sometime and we can hang out. Can i get an example of what some of you would say when calling her for the first time?
 
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no car - hhhmmmmmmmm? take her from her room to your room hahahahahaasha

at least it'll b a symbolic gesture that she is yours now

u can do the caveman thing and club her over the head and drag her to your room - this will also be symbolic - that she is yours now and that she is fallen for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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say
i'm interested in hooking up with you - would u say the feeling is mutual - if yes - then ok lets go bowling!
 

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hm... well thanks for the input, any others?
 
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