Need a little advice for talk tonight

[fuko2007]

Been a while since i have posted up but need some help. Breif rundown on whats going on. Started seeing an old plate of mine again recently and as some of you know things were real rocky between her and I in the past. I was living at home and she is older than i am , i got clingy and all that but she did some pretty crappy stuff to me. Anyway ive had my house now for about about 3 or 4 months and she texts meabout 2 months ago.

She wanted to kow if she could give me some of my stuff back. I had not talked to her for some time so i was ok with it. She came over we had sex and things were fine. Up untill recently ive noticed her becoming weird again. Distant cold etc however you want to put it. I have not done anything like been trying to keep her around 24/7 or anything. Anyway we mad plans for valentines about a week and half inadvance.

Then a snow strom...damn snowstorms. Well she let me stay with her last week mon night tues night and wed night. I went home thursday and my power was still out. So i texted her to see if i could crash at her place agian. She just said do whatever you need to do. Was just real nasty about it. So i called her to see what the deal was.

She went on to say she cant do the 24/7 thing and she is strssed and all that so i went home. "power came back on" . Anyway i texted her to see if we were still on for friday and i get the same response. It really made me mad. So i told her that this works two ways and that when its good for her and she calls dont expect me to just drop everything and come running.

We hung up and didnt talk until sunday. We are supposed to sit down tonight and make "peace". But here is where i need help. She is the type to bring stuff up that you have done and throw it in your face. But when go to defend yourself she FREAKS out and makes it out to be your falult and your such a bad person kind of thing. Im trying to avoid that somehow and if does happen find somehow to defuse it.

Also she is a good friend and fb, and i would like to keep it that way. She didnt friendzone me when i was all beta and crap but it still lurks in my mind. Any ideas on how to go about this guys? She just texted and said in a mtg. until 5.

 

[Dgwizdal]

She's got low interest because your being a needy, clingy, available beta faggot.

You spent 4 days with her and then want to spend a 5th. She acted distant and you immediately freaked and called her; backoff.

Tonight she's going to dump you. I'd flake and tell her something came up. Then don't text her for a few days and play ****y, aloof, distant if you want to keep this going. Or dump her first.

You are in AFCville.

 

[fuko2007]

Cant be dumped were not dateing. We just hang out and fvck everynow and then. She was the needy cligy one at first and i would blow her off. She knows i have options and do lots of things. Sometimes she gets mad when i go do stuff with my friends...well all the time she gets mad. But i dont care. The friend part is a big issue with me to as well as the sex part.

 

[abe0]

But here is where i need help. She is the type to bring stuff up that you have done and throw it in your face. But when go to defend yourself she FREAKS out and makes it out to be your falult and your such a bad person kind of thing. .

LOL...this is normal female behavior in my limited experience. They remember everything...throw it back at you. Its all about emotions and forget using logic...Good Luck!! Abe

 

[fuko2007]

Haha.. abe0..i agree. Im still have not responded to her text so thinking about just going ghost like dude said. But still im not an ***hole and sometimes that backfires on you.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Haha.. abe0..i agree. Im still have not responded to her text so thinking about just going ghost like dude said. But still im not an ***hole and sometimes that backfires on you.

Go Ghost, let her cool off for a couple days, then a$$hole game her. Next time she pisses you off, remove attention instead of calling her out.

It doesn't sound like you are too invested where you will f*ck up so when in doubt, be a jerk. If she gets mad, she'll forgive you and you will continue to bang or whatever else you want.

 

[fuko2007]

Go Ghost, let her cool off for a couple days, then a$$hole game her. Next time she pisses you off, remove attention instead of calling her out.

It doesn't sound like you are too invested where you will f*ck up so when in doubt, be a jerk. If she gets mad, she'll forgive you and you will continue to bang or whatever else you want.

word ....im really thinking about that right now. I know she will just be all pi**y and crap tonight. Might just text and say not a good time tonight will get back in touch. I dont like the whole not responding. Calling it off and not giving her a time frame gets her hampster turning without pi**ing her off.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Send her a text cancelling the talk "something came up" only call her to fuuck at night. Wait till she gets needy... never address the talk issues fuuck that.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Cant be dumped were not dateing.

Hahahaha!

Yes you can man, and believe me, you will be!

As MaximusRex indicated in another thread, it is a good thing you check onto these podcasts from Harry Wilmington. His words will resonate to your situation!

Stop Contacting Her Between Dates

Stop Being So Available

Stop Being Afraid She'll Forget You

Good luck on your journey mate, but that one is a goner!

 

[VikingKing]

Become less available. Don't try to "talk" about stuff, let her do that and if she initiates making "peace" but uses it as a way to bring up sh!t from the past to try to make you look like a bad guy or feel guilty, this is a power move. So when she does bring up the past things, just kind of in gore it or disable it with out getting emotional, its all just a sh!t test.

Fvck, have a good time with her, and leave it at that. She should be the one trying to "work" things out between you to.

Its obvious you are catching feels again. If you emotionally distance yourself a lot, then things should get better.

 

[VladPatton]

What do you think would happen if you keep going back to an ex, man???

Eliminate this virus of a girl from your life once and for all. You will never be happy and at true peace until you do.

I agree with Sgt. Splacker, as well.

 

[Yewki]

Cant be dumped were not dateing.

You're arguing semantics. The point is, she can and will "break it off" with you... Call it being dumped, or whatever you like. Doesn't matter.

Also, I didn't read everything you wrote but from what I read you seem to be in denial about being a clingy AFC f*ck. Acceptance is the first step to recovery. A lot of people post for advice and ignore suggestions because it's not what they want to hear... your best bet is to get out of denial first.

Good luck with that.

 

[narcissist]

So much good advice on here.

Whatever you do, it is going to be a win-win and I will tell you why.

Either you follow the very good advice that these poster's have shared, which i can vouch for and say that they are timeless.

1. Withdraw attention - probably the most important thing
2. Only use her for s e x - fxck her good
3. When you are with her, be EXTREMELY self amused and awesome
- always be seen texting some other girl, and laughing or smiling at the texts
4. If she tries to argue be indifferent with a little smile to let her know she isn't worth the argument
5. Be "hard to get ahold of"
- don't pick up your phone ever
- answer texts RARELY
- if you contact her and she doesn't pick up then she doesn't get to talk to you for the rest of the day - actually just don't contact her, let her do the contacting

If you do these things, her sugar walls will start to waterfall and she will not be able to get enough of you, at this point you have the power back. This is the first "win" so to speak.

BUT I doubt you will actually do this.

What you will probably do is this:

1. Be needy
2. Give her all the attention she wants
3. Go on forums giving her attention when she's not even around
4. Not spin other plates
5. Continue to initiate all the contact
6. fxck her emotionally while she deosn't

And eventually her pvssy will dry up and she'll go for someone else and you'll be in the no contact thread getting over this girl, who in my opinion isn't even worth is bruh.

BUT this is still a "win" for you. Because you will learn from your mistakes and never do that afc bs anymore. Learning from your mistakes is very valuable.

So either way your going to end up realizing that what the poster's on here are recommending (which by the way, from what i've read is very good advice) is the best course of action.

So, it is up to you whether you want to be a boss, and continue fxcking this girl where she's emotionally attached and you couldn't be anymore aloof about the whole situation, OR, you can be an afc and be permanently seen as a b*tch by some girl that you shouldn't even care about, and learn the timeless lessons the hard way.

I hope you pick the boss way.

Good luck. Keep us updated.

 

[narcissist]

But realistically, just get rid of her man. Find a better girl, actually better girls. Stop letting this girl affect your life.

Oh and start bettering yourself.

gym
spin plates
read books
be a boss

 

[fuko2007]

i have plates, not a problem. I didnt talk about anything with her, she just said lets not fight anymore and some other things not worthy of saying. I gave her a fist bump had a glass of wine and took off for the house. She texted otw home but never responded to it. Things worked out, still have my fb.