"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

NC or Not

Road Warrior

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 28, 2010
Messages
19
Reaction score
1
I met a HB8 at a New Years Eve party. I had to venture out of my area a little for the party (1.5 hour drive) to get away from the skanks and fatties that are locally around by me. Anyway, we had a great time at the party and she was really into me. At the end of the night, she actually asks me if I want her phone number! We talk about meeting up half way as it is a bit of a cruize. I call her the next night, all is cool, but I feel like I am slipping as she basically talks non stop without barely being able to get a word in. Dont get me wrong, It was nothing negative, and I dont mind listening as it is part of getting to know someone, but I just get the feeling I am slipping. She calls me the next day right when I get home from work, we chat for a bit I bring up getting together Saturday as I am busy the rest of the weekend and I say I'll call later. She says she may not be able to with work and daughter which I understand. I call later, all seems O.K. same pattern as before. She calls Friday and says she cant make it which I said that its fine, I know what its like to be busy. It sounded like she was still cool, but a little shorter than in the past. Anyway, I have been NC since then, but would like some opinions if I should stay NC or try calling as it feels like a mixed message. Also, What are some good ideas for setting up dates in unfamiliar areas?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

betheman

Banned
Joined
Nov 4, 2010
Messages
1,843
Reaction score
67
Sounds like hard work, not sure its worth the hassle by what you say
 

scrouds

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 18, 2008
Messages
1,233
Reaction score
42
Location
Orlando, fl
You seem pretty available. Is that the message you want to give her, that you're always available? You asked her on a vague date saturday, she blew you off. You call again. She calls you, you of course pick up the phone.

My read: its dead, move on. Have you considered moving? If you have to travel over an hour to get to better girls, maybe that's where you should be living instead.
 

Road Warrior

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 28, 2010
Messages
19
Reaction score
1
Believe me, If I could move, I would, but at this point it is just not an option. Anyway, it felt like such an accomplishment to finally pull something worthwhile. My plan is to improve pulling down there along with trying to pull the few closeer to home.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Top