"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Natural (non-drug) ways of curing depression?

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Originally posted by Eulogy
What the hell? Do you even know what nootropics do, buddy?

They're smart-drugs. I've used 'em before; they work, very well I might add. But that's all they do. Enhance mental function.

They don't do jack $hit for depression.
yeah i know what nootropics do buddy. depression consisit of mostly a mental state. a state that is influenced by many factors ranging from emotional to physical stress placed on oneself. so if you were to alleviate the mind and stimualte it to become more productive and enhance its various functions then the stressful state of depression also declines, not to mention the enchanced thinking and intellect capabilties piracetam provides. so to have some 16 yr old kid come and tell me i dont know what im talking about doesnt fly right with me. do you even know how get this stuff?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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One thing I want you to realize about depression is this:

It Is A Habit!!

People who have bouts with depression (myself included), have slowly developed a train of thought that is negative.

the doctors will sya, "You have a chemical imbalance...here.. take these."

he hands you some pills and off you go.

It's a bunch of BS.

People don't realize that depression is "all in your head", literally. It isn't the chemical imbalance causing the depression; rather it is the depression causing the chemical imbalance.

A friend of mine is really depressed, paranoid and i would say he's either manic or Bi-Polar. This guys is constantly up and down and can't seem to maintain any order in his life. It's pure chaos. He blames everyone (especially his father) and refuses to look at himself as the source of all his misery. I've tried to talk him out of this crap many times... and now I've just decided to let him deal with it when he realizes that it's all his fault. why, you might ask?

Well, he's unemployed... refuses to work. Has zero hobbies outside of chatting online and trying to score with women. Doesn't like to party or be very social. (only when he's feeling "up" does he go out) Is constantly looking in the mirror, obsessing over his appearance and the list goes on and on.....

He wonders why he's depressed?


It's the lifestyle, and the habits he has formed that are causing his depression... yet he refuses to see it.

Funny thing is, when i'm feeling depressed, i take a look at what i've been doing as of late and realize that most of my down days are revolving around a stagnant lifestyle. I feel as if i have nothing to look forward to. Like there isn't enough on my plate to keep me busy.

You really need to distract you concious mind with activities. Healthy activities involving other peopl is usually the best.

Go on k a z z a and search for an e-book called "the depression makeover".


That should help you.


Peace,

The Bad Ass Canadian
 

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Originally posted by Mr.Hash wid da Stash
Getting out of the house, you feel just worse when you're moping about alone at home.
This really depends on the individual... a person who is naturally introverted (in the Myers-Briggs personality test way, not in the "shy" way) will find going out to be only more draining on their already taxed resources. For them, going out and partying (or whatever) will only make things worse.

If you are this way then you could try doings thing that you like about yourself and make you proud to be who you are. Also, exercise does change the chemical state inside your body... I personally find that running or doing push-ups can help me feel better when I'm "down."

Of course if this all persists then you'll need to look for long term solutions and find out what it is that is sapping your self-esteem. Once you find out what it is, focus on the solution and not the problem.
 
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