"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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steelers

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this is kindda messed up..i was bein a wussy on talkin to girls and closin them so i decided to start now..so theres this girl at my school..im knew to the school i just moved there in october..so we hugged a couple of times thats it all we talked bout is are you going to practise--that about it..i don't know her name she doesn't know mine..but i had to just get in there and talk to her..so i saw her on myspace..so i emailed her on myspace..and now i don't know what to do..hb is for the girl
this is the last message she sent me.what do i do next..and were on spring break right now..when i go back to school.wat would i talk about wid her.
i don't know i'm just confused right now. like everyday i don't feel in the game. i'm not in the zone..all my friends are except me..so the messages start from the bottom to the top.


HB::wow lol iiight give me urs

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: LiL D
Date: Apr 4, 2007 5:34 PM


ME::::im the cute guy who hugs you at school, i didn't really introduce myself.and i dunt want to do dat on myspace. so i was wonderin if i culd get ur #, so we culd talk.
iigt see ya later take care


----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: ! WUV M@ TW!N POPO ND M@ BESTIE BJ
Date: Apr 4, 2007 4:37 PM


HB::wow lol wats ur name

----------------- Original Message -----------------
From: LiL D
Date: Apr 4, 2007 4:31 PM


ME::I was reading your profile, and I saw that you like
dancing..and you love goin 2 church to praise da lord
Ya know what? Me too!!! Let's hang out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ryannath

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This is weak. She didn't even know who you are when you sent her the message..lol. She is not interested, that's why she wouldn't give her number when you asked for it. She asked for yours instead so she wouldn't be getting calls from you. And, if you give her your number she won't be calling you, I can guarantee that. Girls always give that excuse, "give me urs" when they are not interested. Forget about her now because nothing will come of it and move on to other girls. And, talk to them in person too so they will at least know your name!

Don't even respond to her now on myspace. It will do no good!
 

kegger

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Well, I will respond something positive.

Being in your place before I know how you feel and and that you are not likely to take some advice that leaves you unlaid.

Well, here is what I would do if I was you. You are going to just save the conversation.

1. Do not give her your number, bad move, you should get hers.
2. Ask open ended questions that she will reply to with answers that stimulate conversation rather than just yes or no.
3. When you do respond, try not to be like waiting for her response and immediately send one back. You do not want to be way to obsessive. I usually wait 20-60 minutes after a message arrives to respond. Also, be sure to read it but not respond because if she is interested, she will want you more if she sees you didn't respond after reading it.
4. Use your CnF.

Here is how I would respond if I were you.

"What, you want me to give you my number so you can call me all hours of the day? Well, think again. I do not even really know you.

BTW, my name is 'Insert Name Here' and I 'Insert where you talk to her. Maybe like say you are on the same hockey team or whatever'.

Now if you want to have a chat over myspace or at school, that is fine but don't take me for the kind of guy just to give my phone number out to any old girl."

I know, it sound bad, but so far you have lost it anyways, what could it hurt.

Kegger
 

The Shocker

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no game...read the bible.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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