My value against rejection

[Grifonculo]

All of us have been or will be rejected by women, time and time again. When that happens, something inside hurts. One voice tells me I'm not worthy, another says I'll end up alone, another says I suck and that girls don't want me. To counter these inner voices, I have to create new ones, like “she rejected my approach, not who I am as a person,” “she doesn’t know me,” “women’s hypergamy these days is completely unbalanced and off the charts because of the internet and social media.”

But in a way, I can't help but think — in prehistoric times, women always played the role of natural selectors, and it’s normal for rejection to trigger these feelings in us. But then I wonder, how reliable is this “natural selection” anymore? How true is it that if a woman rejects us it’s because “we’re not worthy men”?
Or rather, how much of modern female rejection is just the result of a series of dysfunctional dynamics in today’s society?

Maybe this question of mine is total nonsense, but I believe that understanding this could really help ease the sting of rejection that still weighs heavily. Yesterday I was rejected three times, and it hurt — I felt the pain and let it go. But the thought lingers: am I worthy or not? "Of course I am" says my mind, but something deep says no I am not

 

[SW15]

Some of rejection is a part of the dysfunctional dynamics in Westernized cultures.

Rejection is going to be tough on a man emotionally. Too much rejection without success is going to take its toll. It isn't a "numbers game" as some want you to believe. The better idea is to do the things that women will find attractive and try to position oneself for success.

 

[CoolWave1331]

Rejecton is necessary for growth

Sometimes is out of your hands and that is okay. You will fail sometimes even when "on point".

If you can be honest and point to things you've been doing wrong / that need to change, the rejection should be motivation to do better.

Problem I have seen with some guys I know a lot don't think doing anything wrong / there is nothing to be improved upon.

There is saying an unused knife goes dull.....becoming "good" at requires daily effort

 

[Oatmeal31]

All of us have been or will be rejected by women, time and time again. When that happens, something inside hurts. One voice tells me I'm not worthy, another says I'll end up alone, another says I suck and that girls don't want me. To counter these inner voices, I have to create new ones, like “she rejected my approach, not who I am as a person,” “she doesn’t know me,” “women’s hypergamy these days is completely unbalanced and off the charts because of the internet and social media.”

But in a way, I can't help but think — in prehistoric times, women always played the role of natural selectors, and it’s normal for rejection to trigger these feelings in us. But then I wonder, how reliable is this “natural selection” anymore? How true is it that if a woman rejects us it’s because “we’re not worthy men”?
Or rather, how much of modern female rejection is just the result of a series of dysfunctional dynamics in today’s society?

Maybe this question of mine is total nonsense, but I believe that understanding this could really help ease the sting of rejection that still weighs heavily. Yesterday I was rejected three times, and it hurt — I felt the pain and let it go. But the thought lingers: am I worthy or not? "Of course I am" says my mind, but something deep says no I am not

You keep trying until you find what works. It just has to do with trial and error, even some luck. You'll have to try new things.

When you finally realize success, those thoughts you have right now will become irrelevant and you'll keep going in search of new options

It used to hurt me too

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Rejection is part of the game. Maybe its called a game becuase you are supposed to enjoy it overall, in spite of rejections.

There are too many variables you cant control, so dont worry about the rejections because there is no way to know if there is something you could have said or done differently. Worry on the stuff you can actually control

 

[Barrister]

Rejection literally doesn't affect me at all these days. I have accepted women's mercurial nature and understand many times their rejection has little to nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Unless you are forgetting to shower before you head out for the evening, there is next to nothing to ever be sorry about from approaching a woman but striking out. In fact, give yourself a pat on the back because you already did something 95% of men in our soft society would never dream of doing.

Sometimes agreeing and amplifying a rejection can throw the woman off so much that she begins to doubt her initial disregard as well. That is always funny to see.

 

[Grifonculo]

Thank you all for your reply