My Sad & Lame But Very Educational Story, Mostly Lame Though

[Atom Smasher]

Most of it has already been said, but you just revealed something in your last post. Don't look for subtle signs that she is attracted to you. Instead, set your own frame regardless of her. You're feeding off of her feedback way to much. Decide what you want and either take it or close the door. Don't let circumstances or the whims of a woman affect you.

She told you she was stringing you along because she must now rationalize her "forward" behavior with you that yeilded nothing. She will do this at all costs to avoid thinking of herself as a slut. As the others said, she was totally into you and wasn't stringing you along at all.

My advice to you is to STOP, hit your reset button, decide what you want, and act. It's ok if you don't want her, and it's ok if you do. Just act decisively either way. Don't feed off her feedback. It's like being a pilot and trusting broken, miscalibrated gauges to keep you alive. You're the man. Decide and act from within, not from what you observe from without.

 

[beenthereall]

At the dinner and apartment warming I realized...

I honestly did not see a whole lot of what I thought I had seen in her this whole time...maybe it was her new haircut...or her friends which overall did not impress me. I kinda was surprised, but I didn't ever really get any itch. I can be "friends" with her from now on...no problem.

This was a good experience for me going forward, cuz usually I would not be sooo cautious.. and repeatedly cautious!! But now I know how much time I wasted thinking about this..and in some ways all for nothing. We had our fun.. it has passed, we can still get along simply now. Seeing other girls, staying active with running and bball--it all has helped me improve my frame of mind mentally and physically and realize she's not really in my league and there's no relationship compatibility. Sometimes it takes time just to realize certain things.

At any rate, it was good to write this thread out and read the responses...thanks a bunch for the replies.

 

[Iceberg]

At the dinner and apartment warming I realized...

I honestly did not see a whole lot of what I thought I had seen in her this whole time...maybe it was her new haircut...or her friends which overall did not impress me. I kinda was surprised, but I didn't ever really get any itch. I can be "friends" with her from now on...no problem.

This was a good experience for me going forward, cuz usually I would not be sooo cautious.. and repeatedly cautious!! But now I know how much time I wasted thinking about this..and in some ways all for nothing. We had our fun.. it has passed, we can still get along simply now. Seeing other girls, staying active with running and bball--it all has helped me improve my frame of mind mentally and physically and realize she's not really in my league and there's no relationship compatibility. Sometimes it takes time just to realize certain things.

At any rate, it was good to write this thread out and read the responses...thanks a bunch for the replies.

Yeah well. It's how we all learn.

No matter how rough the comments are, or how much we break your balls, we've all been through the same situation. You learn through experience. Not through strangers on the internet bossing you around.