My Quest For Vengeance

[JustWuzzle]

The Talmud says live well that is the greatest revenge. Other sites say become massively successful. I've decided to strike vengeance upon the woman who did me wrong. I'm going to be the man pook describes as dodging the bullet. I lacked motivation because I only surrounded myself with her. I was even put out of my own apartment (In the ghetto) with every success I will put a pic of myself on myspace/facebook. In 3 months I plan on putting my pic up with a new girl. In 6 me with my new career Sounds childish but I want this woman to see what she missed.In a year I will be shocked to see the changes.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

It's part of the human condition to desire what we think is justice. It's our nature to make comparissons, and in the instance of inequality, to see them corrected. And although we rarely consider the ultimate consequences of our actions, this isn't the reason we should temper a desire for vengence. The thing we ought to consider is the overall efforts and resources necessary in order to exact revenge and weigh them against the things we might achieve for our own betterment by redirecting them to our own purposes. Even the efforts required for a slight revenge are better spent with concerns of our own.

This might seem like a longwinded way of saying "Living well is the best revenge", and to a degree I think that's true, but beware the 'Well-lived' life spent in pursuit of revenge. Revenge should never be the motivation for success.

Even the time and mental effort needed to consider some appropriate way of making her aware of how she made you feel are resources better spent on meeting new prospective women who will reciprocate your interest.

 

[synergy1]

ha ha this sounds like the movie title about the 2010/2011 GOP run senate.

But seriously, vengeance over a chick who dumped you? If she is a low quality person, she will bring about her own end. You need not concern yourself. Here is a story about my friends low quality girlfriend who is reaping what she sows.

They had been dating for a long time, basically since she was 18. This kid is fairly high on himself, but is also a serial monogamist and a bit of an idealist. It was sometime last year when his gf was struggling through school that he spent the night taking care of her and even went out of his way to make her her favorite diner the night before some exam. The next day she cheated on him. As an idealist, he knew he could never live with a women like that and he kicked her out.

Ever since, he has been w/ a few chicks and now has a new decent gf. His career is going well, and he is in a great spot in life. His very low quality gf is on the verge of getting kicked out of her second apartment, and she has no friends. Every time she forces herself to hang out with our crew, she is ignored. The forces of nature are working against her. She brought it all on himself. My friend never concerns himself with her doings, and is way better off for it.

 

[JustLurk]

It's part of the human condition to desire what we think is justice. It's our nature to make comparissons, and in the instance of inequality, to see them corrected. And although we rarely consider the ultimate consequences of our actions, this isn't the reason we should temper a desire for vengence. The thing we ought to consider is the overall efforts and resources necessary in order to exact revenge and weigh them against the things we might achieve for our own betterment by redirecting them to our own purposes. Even the efforts required for a slight revenge are better spent with concerns of our own.

This might seem like a longwinded way of saying "Living well is the best revenge", and to a degree I think that's true, but beware the 'Well-lived' life spent in pursuit of revenge. Revenge should never be the motivation for success.

Even the time and mental effort needed to consider some appropriate way of making her aware of how she made you feel are resources better spent on meeting new prospective women who will reciprocate your interest.

Real nice point. You could also say,

Justice scale 50 = 50
-1 for an injustice
49 < 50
So you try to even the scales with vengeance.
49 < 50
- 1 revenge
49 = 49 Justice?
What you don't realize is that what's actually happening is
49 < 50
-1* -1
48 < 49
*effort it takes to commit vengeance and emotional and power cost.

Not only are you still coming out on the bottom, you are also knocking the other number and yourself down at the same time. In other words, your attempt at justice just made everything worse for everyone involved.

Try this:
49 < 50
Forgiveness
+2 for everyone
49 < 50
+2 +2
+1 for feelings of hippy peace

52 = 52

And then you realize that the effort it takes to keep track of these numbers just isn't worth it... and neither is the effort to take revenge.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Anything built on a poor foundation will crumble, and this is one of those instances. Building yourself upon a foundation of impressing someone else, even worse; an ex, will fail. It will only lead to more pain and agony, as it is an egoic fundation.