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Don Juan
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M8s,
A dance is coming up, semi-formal. I need a date. I have a few girls in mind.
First I asked girl A, she said she didn't really like dances and I said 'Me either, but it's something to do.' She was supposed to think about it. This was Thursday. The first day I couldn't get back to her for whatever reason (don't see her much), then I saw her at my locker but I had to get to class. I tried to say hi and ask about it but she was sort of avoiding me. Then weekend, and now today it seems like she was avoiding me.
Little background history on girl A. We had a class together last semester (90 days, I sat right in front of her). We chatted enough and I thought she liked me. I think I may have hit friend status during that time though .
Ok, so she turned me down (maybe), whatever. How do I get an answer? I don't want to have to hunt her down and confront her but I have to find out something before I go to girl B.
Girl B, I showed her some attention the other day w/ a pickup line (in the middle of class, I was showing a friend how well they work :-D ). Now today we made eye contact a couple times during a lecture, I played it nicely I think. I want to ask her if girl A doesn't go for it.
This brings another problem, girl A and B are good friends and I don't want to think B is somehow a second choice or something.
Girl C I don't know and may have a boy friend and is sort of a ***** so if it's not A or B i'll have to consider a girl D.
Girl D i'm talking to on AIM right now (but our AIM conversations are void of meaning so she still doesn't know anything about me. For instance, right now we're arguing about who is Peach #1 and who is Peach #2.), so the whole 'not knowing what to talk about later' doesn't apply.
If things go right I may ask whoever I go with out later on a real date (there's an equally likely chance that I might not). I figure if they say yes at all that they show interest.
Anyways...
1) How do I confront girl A? This is really unlike her and it could have been a result of the finals/HS assesments/report cards. Regardless I need an answer and I need her to stop avoiding me (Jesus Christ a good 'NO I HATE YOU' would have been better than this).
Also, can someone explain to me what the hell happened that took me from what I thought was BF material (or at worst good friend) to whatever I am to her now?
2) How do I ask girl B without making her feel like she was second choice, or having a conflict with girl A?
3) If A, B, C, and D don't work out, aside from trying to salvage any self esteem I have left, what would you suggest doing?
4) What would you suggest I wear to a semi-formal dance? I've tried asking my friends (which are the medium and standard, as long as everyone looks the same it doesn't matter what we wear). Shirt/Tie, sweater and khaki? Sport jacket ensemble (sp/usage)?
I just started reading the board but you're all great.
A dance is coming up, semi-formal. I need a date. I have a few girls in mind.
First I asked girl A, she said she didn't really like dances and I said 'Me either, but it's something to do.' She was supposed to think about it. This was Thursday. The first day I couldn't get back to her for whatever reason (don't see her much), then I saw her at my locker but I had to get to class. I tried to say hi and ask about it but she was sort of avoiding me. Then weekend, and now today it seems like she was avoiding me.
Little background history on girl A. We had a class together last semester (90 days, I sat right in front of her). We chatted enough and I thought she liked me. I think I may have hit friend status during that time though .
Ok, so she turned me down (maybe), whatever. How do I get an answer? I don't want to have to hunt her down and confront her but I have to find out something before I go to girl B.
Girl B, I showed her some attention the other day w/ a pickup line (in the middle of class, I was showing a friend how well they work :-D ). Now today we made eye contact a couple times during a lecture, I played it nicely I think. I want to ask her if girl A doesn't go for it.
This brings another problem, girl A and B are good friends and I don't want to think B is somehow a second choice or something.
Girl C I don't know and may have a boy friend and is sort of a ***** so if it's not A or B i'll have to consider a girl D.
Girl D i'm talking to on AIM right now (but our AIM conversations are void of meaning so she still doesn't know anything about me. For instance, right now we're arguing about who is Peach #1 and who is Peach #2.), so the whole 'not knowing what to talk about later' doesn't apply.
If things go right I may ask whoever I go with out later on a real date (there's an equally likely chance that I might not). I figure if they say yes at all that they show interest.
Anyways...
1) How do I confront girl A? This is really unlike her and it could have been a result of the finals/HS assesments/report cards. Regardless I need an answer and I need her to stop avoiding me (Jesus Christ a good 'NO I HATE YOU' would have been better than this).
Also, can someone explain to me what the hell happened that took me from what I thought was BF material (or at worst good friend) to whatever I am to her now?
2) How do I ask girl B without making her feel like she was second choice, or having a conflict with girl A?
3) If A, B, C, and D don't work out, aside from trying to salvage any self esteem I have left, what would you suggest doing?
4) What would you suggest I wear to a semi-formal dance? I've tried asking my friends (which are the medium and standard, as long as everyone looks the same it doesn't matter what we wear). Shirt/Tie, sweater and khaki? Sport jacket ensemble (sp/usage)?
I just started reading the board but you're all great.