Jerry Maguire
Senior Don Juan
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I've become really successful and happy with my love life since this summer and I'd like to share with you my philosophies on the subject.
1. Be yourself to a certain extent.
I believe it's much healthier for a partner to like you for you, not for who you think she wants you to be. Plus, it's a lot easier to be yourself than spend all that energy keeping the charade up and trying to remember who you're trying to be.
2. Always go for it.
If you want it, take it, or at least put yourself out there. This strengthens yourself by being independent of outcomes. You can control your actions but not your outcomes.
These are my two main keys to a happy life.
Before this summer I dressed preppily and had it all planned out how I thought the majority of girls liked a guy to look.
I decided to change COMPLETELY in the way I wanted to. I started painting my nails alternately black and silver, wear eyeliner when I'm going out to clubs, wear the clothes I want, got five piercings and two tattoos. I grew my hair and dyed it black and blonde. All this over the course of less than half a year.
It's so easy to change, yet changes usually happen by theirself. You just need to get the ball rolling. You can't plan these things too well, just alter your mind set to some staunch beliefs.
Beliefs that you know are "you", a strong moral basis for you to grow yourself upon.
Outcomes can't be controlled but you can control yourself. Mold yourself into the person you want to be, not the person that society tells you women like.
Cliched advice? Maybe.
But how many people actually don't conform at all?
Being yourself doesn't mean conforming yourself to SS rather than mainstream media. It means being who you want to be, not to be popular, not to be attractive, but to be comfortable with your appearance, your beliefs and your actions.
1. Be yourself to a certain extent.
I believe it's much healthier for a partner to like you for you, not for who you think she wants you to be. Plus, it's a lot easier to be yourself than spend all that energy keeping the charade up and trying to remember who you're trying to be.
2. Always go for it.
If you want it, take it, or at least put yourself out there. This strengthens yourself by being independent of outcomes. You can control your actions but not your outcomes.
These are my two main keys to a happy life.
Before this summer I dressed preppily and had it all planned out how I thought the majority of girls liked a guy to look.
I decided to change COMPLETELY in the way I wanted to. I started painting my nails alternately black and silver, wear eyeliner when I'm going out to clubs, wear the clothes I want, got five piercings and two tattoos. I grew my hair and dyed it black and blonde. All this over the course of less than half a year.
It's so easy to change, yet changes usually happen by theirself. You just need to get the ball rolling. You can't plan these things too well, just alter your mind set to some staunch beliefs.
Beliefs that you know are "you", a strong moral basis for you to grow yourself upon.
Outcomes can't be controlled but you can control yourself. Mold yourself into the person you want to be, not the person that society tells you women like.
Cliched advice? Maybe.
But how many people actually don't conform at all?
Being yourself doesn't mean conforming yourself to SS rather than mainstream media. It means being who you want to be, not to be popular, not to be attractive, but to be comfortable with your appearance, your beliefs and your actions.