my mentality is at the valley of death

[tarotale]

i don want to admit but i will. i am screwing up. not b/c i am necessarily doing

bad with girls, i have wrong mentality. this is where i am. 20 yrs old, been

single for about a year or two. i got used to it, but inside, i hate the fact

that i can't even take care of myself to get a girl i want. i hate why i just

can't do it. i know some of you guys gone through this. i don mean to come

out all sentimental, but this whole women thing is putting massive stress

on my mentality. "you must do good with girls b/c that is what you want"

keeps haunting in my head, follows me every day at every hour.

i want to be good with women, no doubt. but it drives me insane. i went

over the limit, and i am too obssessed about it. my life is unconsciously

revolving around my success with women. this is WRONG. that is why i have

oppressive feeling in my brain when i interact with women. i am not at ease.

god, i wish i never got into this far. i am going to start from the bottom again

guys, help me reset my values and my mentality. from now on, i just plan to

focus on relaxing. what kind of mentality and attitude should i learn and apply

in order to cast the obssession and peacelessness? i can't suffer b/c of

fvcking women anymore, i am the master of my reality and i got to conquer

my inner stability first. help me, really, this is not about women. this is about

me as a man and you as another man who helps the man. thanks

 

[Cherokee]

Well dude, it looks like you've completed the first step in the solution. You've admitted that you have a problem. A lot of people don't get past that. Personally, I think you need a core focus, find an ambition, hobbies. You need stuff to aim for in life. What do you actually wanna do with your life?
one of the best pieces of advice I was given, was to make women an extra part of my life, never should they stray into "my" life, to interupt my goals. Clearly they are standing in front of you on as a road block, so just go through em, and don't look back. The fact that you say this problem is haunting you all the time tells me you aren't actively doing anything else with your time. As most dj's will tell you, you must prepare yourself before you can conquer (either women or the world). Lastly my friend, Apathy is the corner stone of life.

 

[Warrior74]

You need to focus on the rest of your life. Forget about women for a while.

Your 20 years old, hang out with your friends, focus on school (if your in school), plan a trip with your boys and go somewhere fun. Enjoy your hobbies. Go to parties and hang out. Drop getting girls from your mind for about 30 days, treat every woman you meet like one of your buddies for a while, just relax! In fact if you just relax you'll probably do better with women in the long run.

These type of sites become a habbit and get's your brain even more analytical about girls than you were before. Because now you have so much Knowledge to use. You have to take a break to let the lessons sink into your subconscious and become natural. You can't keep studying this stuff all of the time, or it will get overwhelming as you can see. I would say to try to take a week or two off from sosuave at the very least and then come back to this thread and tell us how you feel.