My girlfriend's "boyfriend" just called me from her phone.

[wjh]

I've been seeing this girl for almost 5 months now. I care about her. When I care about a girl I really try to take her feelings under consideration, I'm patient, generous, and generally enjoy having her company because I feel she deserves it. I keep my guard up and let things develop as they may.

So it's really crappy when one of her ex-boyfriends goes inside her house, picks up her cellphone, and calls me asking me questions. When I asked him who he was, he says he's her boyfriend Jay.

Really? That's news to me.

Unfortunately, I've been here before. This is ex-boyfriend drama. I mentioned to her when we first started dating that I don't put up with it. That I don't like ex-boyfriends showing up causing commotion and such, just like this. I told her I don't put up with it and she knew it.

She cares about me a lot. Finally after she got back her phone and I told her to explain herself I told her that she knew I didn't deal with this type of nonsense and that she's basically lost my trust. She told me her brother let him in the house. Well, I've met that brother before and it's to me now that he doesn't respect my relationship with his sister. Her problem, not mine.

She said it wasn't her fault, but you can bet that I'd never have an ex-girlfriend in my house.

She told me that he used to do this, before we started dating. But how can I know that he hasn't showed up before and she just hasn't told me? How can I trust her?

So I asked her what she was going to do about this and she said "I don't know, what am I supposed to do?" I told her that typically when someone harasses you like this and they don't listen you file a restraining order. She very quickly said she'd do it... But I countered cynically with "Well, you'd be the first..."

I got off the phone with her crying. I told her to call me when she had this figured out.

Any thoughts?

 

[j0n024]

I think you did pretty well, I personally wouldnt put up with this sh1t and who's to say that the X hasnt fvked her while he was in the house..no way to know so I agree that she lost your trust...and she has to do something to regain even a little of the respect and trust you've given her freely.

I DOUBT that she WILL do anything about this so-called X but you should give it a week the longest to see IF she does anything but knowing women they LOVE the attention and the drama so I doubt she will do anything and then get MAD at YOU for putting so much "Pressure," On her to do something about this so called X.

 

[Single_Sucks]

don't you think she might just give up, considering what you said?

 

[tony-montana]

i can tell you if a girl really loved you and cared, they'd fix this sh!t up real quick. doesn't look like she cares. i'd slap that b!tch.

 

[DJDamage]

How often has this happened? if its the first time, I would have let it slide and therefore there is no reason as to not believe her story. After 5 months you should already have a sense whether your girl has any integrity or not.

However if sh1t like this keeps poping up then she is full of B.S.

 

[KontrollerX]

Like persistant exaction would say...

There's enough red flags in this situation that it would take the Spanish armada to raise them all.

And to add my own creation to the mix...

This situation has more red flags than China!

Seriously though the boyfriend could of and probably did fvck her before she magically got the phone back again.

The whole situation wreaks of BS but eh if you believe deep down the girl has integrity and this is a first time offense see what she does about it to fix the situation but yeah its her situation to fix.

You don't need angry ex boyfriend drama in your life or the drama of being strung along and played while she's telling you both you are her boyfriend while she gets to cry about it all and get herself off to the drama of everything.