"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My girlfriend just told me she was bisexual.

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She is beggin' me not to break up with her (after she told me she was bi) but I told her I need to sleep on it. I just don't know. I think her being a bisexual is fine, as long as she doesn't have an emotional attachment to her female partner. But the other partner she has in mind is her good friend. I think it's very possible that my girl's friend can turn her into a full-on lesbian (pushing me out of the picture).

So, just gimme some opinions on how you guys would react if your girl told ya she was bi.

PS- dont say something with a "3-way" remark, okay? replying with a "3-way" remark is so cliche that it lost its comedic value. so, to save us all time let's just not have 10 people reply with a "3-way" remark.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Vincent

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Honestly?


If my gf told me she was bi, i would immedietely think "3-way".

Most chicks in hs think they're bi, when in fact they are just having trouble with their sexuality. Don't let it bother you, just have fun with it ;)

If she's a lesbian, she's a lesbian, as you saw in friends (oh god i thought i'd never quote friends). You can't change her, so enjoy things while you can.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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One of the best lays (er girlfrind) that I ever had was a woman who was bi. Didn't bother me at all. Not until I realized she was a far left recovering feminazi... :(
 

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She has a "female-partner" in mind? Tell her you would still consider this cheating if she messed with someone else. So tell her just to involve you :)
 

splinterkb

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Dude thats like the best situation to be in! You can have sex with her and another girl at the same time and not get in trouble!
Wait a little while, and then casually bring it up.. dont just ask about it straight up or she'll prolly get pissed.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Jester

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OK. Take what everyone who replyed just said and put it in a place in your mind. Now, set that place on fire and put it in a dumpster.

Im gona call you mark because i dont care to refer to your handle.


Mark, or whatever your name is, If you care about your girlfriend at all, then you must dump her and not look back.

If you TRUTHFULLY, do not give a **** about her, then it is your prerogative to make the decision. If you want to you could certainly have a 3-some with her and her "partner". In this DJ's not-so-humble opinion though i do not see the value in a 3-some. Seems redundant to me. And way too much effort for sex.

But based on what you said its pretty obvious you would have liked to care about this girl.

So it is my advice to you, and also the knowledge ive gained from being in this situation my self, is to dump this girl. Whatever you may think, there is something inherently wrong with bisexuality There is no religious influence on my opinion. I have observed many of these people, and they seem to all be very confused and very mentally unhealthy.

Dump this girl, she does not care for you, she does not know what she is, and she will hurt you if you care about her.

Do the right thing.
 

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She said bisexual, not homosexual.

So if she says that's why she's breaking up, she really means that you're boring or don't interest her anymore.

--iMat
 

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think of it this way. say u have 200 ppl in ur school(just say) 100 girls, 100 guys, instead of having the 100 chances of her cheating on you, its now 200 :)
 

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Originally posted by Thraxeh
think of it this way. say u have 200 ppl in ur school(just say) 100 girls, 100 guys, instead of having the 100 chances of her cheating on you, its now 200 :)
hahahaahahah
 

The Antichrist_Star

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Originally posted by Thraxeh
think of it this way. say u have 200 ppl in ur school(just say) 100 girls, 100 guys, instead of having the 100 chances of her cheating on you, its now 200 :)
Comedy... :)

Some people say dump her, some people say screw her and her friend and tell all of your friends about it. I say... do what you want to do. Some men cannot handle the fact that their girlfriends (see: more than you think) are bisexual or even bicurious. If you think you are one of those men... then break up with her, plain and simple. However, if you are sexually liberal, and open to explore the various avenues of sexuality.... then see where your relationship may take you. Really know how you would handle that before you do anything.

Good luck...

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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