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Triple T

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Heres a little background info:
Dating for 4 months, she has sort of a one-it-is for me and she gets mad for the stupidest reasons (in my opinion)


Well anyways, we've had several fights already. (At least once every month) but this time I just snapped because she gets upset for the stupidest reasons. For example:

So we're on this fieldtrip out of town and its pouring rain and I needed to borrow some rainboots to run down to the central office at the campground we were staying at.

I ask my girlfriend for her boots but her boots are too small for me.
I ask my girlfriend's best friend for her boots and they fit perfect and are sooo comfy! (top of the line boots) So i'm like "nice these are a perfect fit! Thanks! :D " Her friend replies "haha no problem :up:"

So then after I come back from my journey I find out that my girlfriend got pissed at her friend because she thinks that her friend likes ME?! like WTF, insecure much?? She stopped talking to us both for the rest of the trip.

That pissed me off, I had a talk with her and so did her friend. Things got resolved.

But thats just ONE of MANY fights we've had about stupid things. Its her that gets all insecure and mad about things like this and then in turn it always puts me in a bad mood. I either feel pissed, depressed, helpless, or all 3.



So my question is...how the hell do I deal with this insecure girl (she also thinks and over-analyzes things too much) I'm sick of her getting upset and what not.
Shes beautiful no doubt (HB8) and has a great personality but shes too insecure about the dumbest things.
I'd rather not break up with her but if thats the only way to go, I'll do it.

What do you guys suggest I do?
 

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Triple T said:
Heres a little background info:
Dating for 4 months, she has sort of a one-it-is for me and she gets mad for the stupidest reasons (in my opinion)


Well anyways, we've had several fights already. (At least once every month) but this time I just snapped because she gets upset for the stupidest reasons. For example:

So we're on this fieldtrip out of town and its pouring rain and I needed to borrow some rainboots to run down to the central office at the campground we were staying at.

I ask my girlfriend for her boots but her boots are too small for me.
I ask my girlfriend's best friend for her boots and they fit perfect and are sooo comfy! (top of the line boots) So i'm like "nice these are a perfect fit! Thanks! :D " Her friend replies "haha no problem :up:"

So then after I come back from my journey I find out that my girlfriend got pissed at her friend because she thinks that her friend likes ME?! like WTF, insecure much?? She stopped talking to us both for the rest of the trip.

That pissed me off, I had a talk with her and so did her friend. Things got resolved.

But thats just ONE of MANY fights we've had about stupid things. Its her that gets all insecure and mad about things like this and then in turn it always puts me in a bad mood. I either feel pissed, depressed, helpless, or all 3.



So my question is...how the hell do I deal with this insecure girl (she also thinks and over-analyzes things too much) I'm sick of her getting upset and what not.
Shes beautiful no doubt (HB8) and has a great personality but shes too insecure about the dumbest things.
I'd rather not break up with her but if thats the only way to go, I'll do it.

What do you guys suggest I do?
i feel like i've already read this thread. the only thing that changed is the number of months yall have been together.

my solution is to fall in love with her. if you do that then you'll feel appreciated when she goes psycho.

But realistically, you either need to get things straightened out with her that "you're a cool guy. you talk to a lot of people. it's not okay for her to act like this on such trivial matters if she wants a relationship with you." granted, she might have been cheated on in the past, or something along those lines, but that has nothing to do with the two of you. she can either figure something out about how to deal with it, or start figuring out how to get over the loss of you.

UNLESS you're like me. cuz my gf is like this too. i've been with her almost a year. im the male equivalent of an attention *****. i like the extra attention sometimes. lol i know it sounds kinda fvcked up. but whatever. that's neither here nor there. the main point is that you dont like this. and you want it to stop. so there's your solution.

if she's not receptive to your bringing up of the subject, then you need to get out of the relationship before you get too far invested. and you're also operating on the scarcity mentality slightly here saying that "she's so great and you'd rather not break up with her" :nono: lol
 

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I don't really know if you can do a lot but I don't want to just shout "Next!". You might do well to have a talk to her about it. She will either get mad or you two will end up with a better connection. A lot of the time guys on here post advice and I just think, you know why don't they just talk to the girl about it.

It's hard to change people, and it's impossible if they don't want to change. Have a talk to her and maybe you can find out why she is so insecure. If it doesn't get any better and it really that bad you might have to break up with her.

That's just my opinion. Listen to yourself above everyone else.
 

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SinJester said:
I don't really know if you can do a lot but I don't want to just shout "Next!". You might do well to have a talk to her about it. She will either get mad or you two will end up with a better connection. A lot of the time guys on here post advice and I just think, you know why don't they just talk to the girl about it.

It's hard to change people, and it's impossible if they don't want to change. Have a talk to her and maybe you can find out why she is so insecure. If it doesn't get any better and it really that bad you might have to break up with her.

That's just my opinion. Listen to yourself above everyone else.
Yea i'm definately talking about this to her tomorow.
But if I have to break up with her, any ideas on how to put it off on a good note? (shes got many hot friends) and I wouldn't mind maintaining friends with her still.
 
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