My girl wants to hang out with her ex. What do I do?

[DavenJuan]

YOU SEEM LIKE A SPAZZ FOR EVEN ASKING THIS QUESTOIN. im on your side, but ..comn'!!!! punch her in the crotch and send her on her way..merry christmas ex boyfriend.

...really though.... she wants her ex still and have you for the rebound...stop wasting time and find a chic who cares about how YOU feel versus the f*ckin ex boyfriend

 

[bigjohnson]

.... punch her in the crotch ....

"I'm gonna punch you RIGHT IN the ovary .... yep, right in the old baby maker"

Wasn't that from Ron Burgandy or something?

 

[Dilberto]

Spare the embarrassment, cut your losses, and bounce....on this one. She just insulted your intelligence, by asking if it was OK for her ex to hang-out........yeeeaahhh, right!!! Lates!!!!

 

[Alkali]

Okay, long story short, I have officially been bf/gf with this girl for a couple of weeks, and she told me originally that she is not going to talk to her ex who cheated on her multiple times before she broke up with him. Well he imed her today and she told me that he wants to hang out. She showed me a message from him that said "we can just be friends, but i would like it to be more than that". It is obvious to me that this guy wants some pus$y (his girlfriend just dumped him), but girls are f*cking retarded.

I told her that if she hangs out with him, I will dump her on the spot. She got extremely upset and told me that I don't care about our relationship. I have been sticking to my guns with this, but am I being too harsh? We actually broke up for like an hour tonight over it but then we talked for a while and we are still together. The thing with me is that I don't want to end up being the one that looks like a fool. She claims that I don't trust her and says that even if they do hang out, she would never do anything. What would you do?

First, you should have asked her if she was actually going to do it.

Then you could have played hardball.

 

[Alkali]

This is probably the most helpful thread that I have ever read. Thanks a lot guys.

Check these new developments out and tell me what you think.

Well, we were talking for a while and I decided to calm down and instead of telling her that it would be over and what-not. I did a little reversal of the whole thing (as you may have seen from my second post). Well I kept it up and was basically just screwing around when I was talking about hanging out with my past one-night-stand girls, but she bought it that I was really going to call them and hang out. Well let me say this: I am AMAZED at how much her attitude has changed! She texted me and said "I told (ex) not to text or im me anymore and I said that I can't hang out with him this weekend."
She called me today and was telling me how much she liked me, and she has quotes in her profile dedicated to me.

Unbe-freakin-lievable.

I don't know how to take this, honestly. Even though she hasn't hung out with the kid, I still trust her less than I did before. I mean, to her credit she wasn't doing any sneaking around and was very blunt about the whole conversation that she had with him. But it still makes me uneasy. Would breaking it off with her still be my best option?

She's trying to make you jealous. In a sense, letting you know you're lucky.

You effectively let her stunt backfire with your passive threat. Classic.