"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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My g/f is an obsessive psycho

SikWitIt

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Alright we have been together going on year/half, today i have 20 missed call's an guess who they are from?

I mean this chick doesnt just call she "CALL'S" talk about needy she's always telling me she does 90% of the work in this relationship an how i dont hold her hand,kiss her,hug her share my feeling's with her.

An how she doesnt think i like her anymore "well of course your all over me all the time" the only reason i havent left her is cause i dont have anywher to go.

She pay's the rent/electricity with my sorry ass job the only thing i can pay for is my car 400$ month plus my insurance an cell phone

I dont wanna move back in with my parent's but i dont wanna put up with this beast anymore either.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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KontrollerX

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Ultimately it comes down to what you value more at this point.

Getting the scraps of intimacy and sex she throws your way while putting up with this bad disrespectful behaviour or...

Standing up like a man, keeping your dignity and getting the hell out of this situation no matter what it takes to begin again and start new.

The second option can be damn hard no doubt but eventually that is where you are going to be anyway since this chick is such a pain in the ass for you.

I foresee her either dumping you or you dumping her.

She would dump you if she can find an AFC to kiss her ass as much as she wants which you won't do and you will dump her when you finally get fed up with all of her bullsh!t.

Might as well be the one to dump her first but of course weigh the pros and cons of it all in your mind a bit more before you decide on a course of action.

Really though I think you will take the second option but the question is will you take it sooner or will you wait until she dumps you and take it later?

You'll just have to decide.
 

droogie

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Maybe you could find a way to cut that car payment in half, then find a room mate. I hope its a nice car for 400.00/m.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Why don't you just tell her what she wants to hear? Tell her how you feel once in awhile. Hell, If she is paying for rent then, you got a free place to stay! Why not take advantage of this.
 

DavenJuan

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kontroller is telling you pretty much what you have to do.

you are EVENTUALLy going to have to move on at some point. bite the bullet, move back home, and start fresh. in the end you will be a better man and appreicate yourself alot more
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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WaterTiger

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Get out of there! You aren't her boyfriend! You're her PET!

She doesn't respect you because she pays the lion's share of the bills. Get a better job! Get a cheaper car (What are you driving to your crappy job, a BMW????)

Go move in with Mom & Dad, it will be less of a blow to your ego that living with the girlfriend from hell.
 

The Deacon

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I'm gonna give you the obvious answer. You should probably dump this chick if she's being a little pisser. First, though, I'd suggest (*gasp*) trying to work things out reasonably (as much as this goes against DJ principles). If those don't work, though, you know what you have to do.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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NSUballer said:
what an idiot. you live with a girl you hate.
The things people will put up with in order to have a free ride. You'd think that you'd get a better deal if you sold your soul to the Devil.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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