My friend's GF

[NotSoSuaveDave]

Hi all!
I've got a question..
A good friend of mine has a new girlfriends since half a year. Never seen her before yesterday but only heard stories. I felt something was wrong and I told him that. But he ignored it and I think cuz this b1tch has amazing sex with him.

His father is now dieing in a few days and he wants to move in a house closer to his parents house. So ofcourse he asked me to help. And o yeah, this girl is 19 and comes from a trouble family with a mom using cocain and stuff, not taking care of the children. She doesn't do this though. His car and house are a mess, and she uses both the most. This is apparently a lazy biatch. Not my problem ok?

Now something IS my problem. When we were moving heavy stuff out into the van, she was doing ????? So dunno how or when she came up with it but I heard her say something like: I could help but I would only be walking in your way (or how you call it in english) Later I asked her to do something. She said: uhm yeah but im pregnant since 3 days and afraid to lose the child. (but she chainsmokes and ****s my friend ) I didn't want to make too much fuss, and especially since my friend's father is dieing. And o yeah her dog needed to walk a bit too, so I was glad she volunteered for such a hard task while we were working our asses off. I asked her a few more questions about various stuff, which she all dodged. I didn't mention that I know her game now and that she is totally playing my friend and that he's such a wussy for her. (and he told me too much about her doing stuff that I cant be wrong about his wussy-being )

Today we're gonna have to take the stuff out of the van (or small truck, w/e you call it) and I will refuse to take HER stuff out (clothes, small girlstuff, bags full of it, you know..) So I was thinking that when my friend comes here to pick me up I'm gonna have a little chat with him. It will be something like this (but in Dutch )"Listen dude, I have respect for you and I feel bad about stuff happening in your life now. But I'm not buying the crap she gives me. You can buy it, but I wont. If she just gonna stand there being pretty, I will only help you to move the heavy stuff she can't. Maybe I will make a funny comment so she will probably get it and starts moving stuff. If not, take me home."

What do you guys think about it? Should I say/do something different?
I don't wanna lose my friend either....

 

[Scars]

I think the best thing you can do is acknowledge to your friend that you feel this girl is no good. A friends judgment SHOULD help influence a decision, but at the end of the day your friend is going to do what he wants. And sadly, I don't think he has any intention of leaving this girl anytime soon. (They're already moving in together as well, how long have they even know each other?) Your friend is simply putting up with a brat because of the sex. A horrible reason to stick with a woman, but it's not uncommon.

I think the refusal of moving her stuff is a little too much. You came to help them move, so help. If it bothers you that much, then perhaps maybe make a comment about how she could help a little more, but don't let it effect you so much. You only have to help them one more day right? Just get it done and forget about it. It's not really your business. You can try and talk some sense into your friend and let him know how you feel, but at the end of the day you still have to respect him and his decision. Even if it is a potentially harmful or stupid decision. At least you tried.

Good luck to you and your friend.

-Scars

 

[NotSoSuaveDave]

Thanks
Yeah I forgot to mention when she moved in! Well, they had it going on for like a week or 2 when she told him she wanted to move in... and since she has sex like mad with him, he agreed. I asked him if he was crazy, but I also knew he was single since 2 months after a 8 year LTR. So maybe a bit weak. He sometimes asked me what I thought about things but did things HER way anyway. They have this "relationship" for like.. 6 months now. He is 29 years old, but I think age in relationships doesn't matter but more the maturity of the person. In my opinion he lowered himself to her maturity level lately. He is not the same person anymore

Yes I think you're right about making the comment (so we think the same here) and do it anyway (different opinion but I can agree with it)

If he has to move in the future and asks me to help, I tell him I will but only if she moves her azz as well. Don't get me wrong at this point, but I'm mature enough to know the girl and I don't have to like eachother

Funny sidestory to this one, this girl has a gf who saw me on my (sorta dutch myspace) profile and asked them if we could meet. She went on vacation but today I will probably meet her as my friend's GF mentioned this. Let's see..