my ex g/f of 3 years ago and i have been talking on facebook recently. she's not on my friends list, but her mom added me awhile back and we've kept in touch some. back when her and i were dating neither of us were on facebook, so there was no deleting her or anything like that after we broke up. i did send my ex a friend request but she has yet to accept it.lol we've been emailing each other a couple of times lately, but nothing too deep, mostly small talk. i did ask her about hanging out sometime but she replied with "I'm just not sure I can take you serious". she's said this same line in the past two emails. in fact here's the last email she sent me that i haven't replied to(not sure what to say or even if i should reply back that's why i'm asking you guys for advice on what to do):
I wish I could take you seriously. I just have so much going on right now that I can't risk having potential drama in my life, I know that's selfish but where I'm at.
I know that sounds like she's not interested at all, but the whole "i can't take you seriously" makes me think there's a small part of her that does want to see me, she just isn't sure. it's like she doesn't think i'm really serious about wanting to see her. maybe i'm interpriting it how i want it to sound, i don't know. i need some unbiased interpretation.
we dated for a year and i won't lie when i say if there's any girl i've ever dated that i could see myself marrying oneday, it would be her. we had our share of fights about stupid sh!t and she was pretty insecure at the time, but i wasn't exactly perfect either. we brokeup because i was in college and i just couldn't fully put 100% of myself into the relationship, we started arguing over dumb stuff alot, and i made a stupid decision and brokeup with her. i've regretted that decision everyday for the past 3 years. she's always been in the back of my mind since then and i never really moved on from her, i'll admit that. her mom did tell me randomly recently that she had matured alot and was a different person. this is coming from her mom, i'm not saying this about her.
i want to go against every rule on here about getting back with an ex because my feelings are still strong for her and i didn't realize just how strong until we recently got in touch again. in the 3 years since we've broken up i haven't met a single girl that i would choose over her if i had the choice. there just isn't sh!t out there, and i've looked for 3 years, not 3 days, not 3 months.....3 years. i don't know if it's a comfort thing i have with my ex and that's the driving force with me wanting to see her again or what it is. all i know is the few girls i was sort of seeing, i would ditch them yesterday if my ex would agree to see me and i could really tell her how i feel. i just need some advice on how to convince her that she should take a chance on seeing me again and that i want to be with her. i don't want to keep dating around with loser women and all there b.s. excuses, problems, games, etc. i did that the past 3 years and haven't been happy at all like i was when i was dating my ex. yeah we fought but so what, who doesn't, maybe her mom is right and she has come a long way, i know i've done alot of changing since then and hopefully for the better. can you guys help me out at all? here's a pic of me and her back when we were dating. i haven't dated anyone CLOSE to being as hot as her since, and i haven't clicked with any chick like i did with her when we first met.
I wish I could take you seriously. I just have so much going on right now that I can't risk having potential drama in my life, I know that's selfish but where I'm at.
I know that sounds like she's not interested at all, but the whole "i can't take you seriously" makes me think there's a small part of her that does want to see me, she just isn't sure. it's like she doesn't think i'm really serious about wanting to see her. maybe i'm interpriting it how i want it to sound, i don't know. i need some unbiased interpretation.
we dated for a year and i won't lie when i say if there's any girl i've ever dated that i could see myself marrying oneday, it would be her. we had our share of fights about stupid sh!t and she was pretty insecure at the time, but i wasn't exactly perfect either. we brokeup because i was in college and i just couldn't fully put 100% of myself into the relationship, we started arguing over dumb stuff alot, and i made a stupid decision and brokeup with her. i've regretted that decision everyday for the past 3 years. she's always been in the back of my mind since then and i never really moved on from her, i'll admit that. her mom did tell me randomly recently that she had matured alot and was a different person. this is coming from her mom, i'm not saying this about her.
i want to go against every rule on here about getting back with an ex because my feelings are still strong for her and i didn't realize just how strong until we recently got in touch again. in the 3 years since we've broken up i haven't met a single girl that i would choose over her if i had the choice. there just isn't sh!t out there, and i've looked for 3 years, not 3 days, not 3 months.....3 years. i don't know if it's a comfort thing i have with my ex and that's the driving force with me wanting to see her again or what it is. all i know is the few girls i was sort of seeing, i would ditch them yesterday if my ex would agree to see me and i could really tell her how i feel. i just need some advice on how to convince her that she should take a chance on seeing me again and that i want to be with her. i don't want to keep dating around with loser women and all there b.s. excuses, problems, games, etc. i did that the past 3 years and haven't been happy at all like i was when i was dating my ex. yeah we fought but so what, who doesn't, maybe her mom is right and she has come a long way, i know i've done alot of changing since then and hopefully for the better. can you guys help me out at all? here's a pic of me and her back when we were dating. i haven't dated anyone CLOSE to being as hot as her since, and i haven't clicked with any chick like i did with her when we first met.